This morning I woke up with a laundry list of things I needed to do that weighed me down. On top of all of this, my daughters really need extra support these days.
I felt my daughters’ needs taking precedent over mine, and I began to feel overwhelmed. I wanted to be there for them and my grandchildren. I realized the underlying emotion I was feeling was actually guilt.
How could I say no to helping a daughter of mine and then go to the gym and take a class when she needed my support?
I wrote all the things down I needed to accomplish in my calendar to help me prioritize my day. I noticed that some of the things that felt urgent really weren’t, and other things, like taking time for myself, were just what I needed.
My inner wise woman kept telling me, “Go for a walk instead of the gym. You’ll enjoy the sunshine, and it will help you feel better.” My mind kept saying, “You’ve got too much to do. Get going.”
Before proceeding with my day, I decided to read my Building the Foundation for Self-love e-course prompt for this morning. I was reminded about the importance of taking care of myself in order to better take care of others. I asked myself, “What would love do?” The answer for today was, “Go for a walk in the sunshine before you begin all of the things on your to-do list.
I chose love in the form of a walk at Shollenberger Park. The sun was shining on the water like diamonds. The air was crisp and cold, and my body loved the feel of stretching with each step. I shared my expanding energy of love with each person I passed by smiling and offering a greeting.
It never ceases to amaze me how much I need my own advice! Taking my own e-course is such a gift! Taking the time to consciously pay attention to my emotions and choose a loving action will be my continued gift to myself this month.
I know the month of December is probably filled to the brim for you. Still, I ask you to add one more thing on your to-do-list. Add the gift of self-love. Choose you first and I promise it will help with all the other stuff. It could be as easy as asking yourself, “What would love do?”
Blessings on your Self-Love Diet journey
Michelle Minero, MFT