I read somewhere recently that, “Getting to know someone is one of life’s greatest challenges and pleasures.” This is as true as any statement I can think of. Would you agree?
Communication stems from a desire to know and a decision to tell. We each choose what we want others to know about us. In opening up to someone, we increase our own self-knowledge and understanding. Meeting a new friend and watching the relationship grow into true friendship is a wonderful thing to behold. These kinds of things really do add richness to our lives. Without being able to get close to someone we do not develop in the social aspect of overall wellness.
As great a thing as friendship is, it doesn’t come free. You have to work at it just like self-love, or anything else that is worthwhile. This is where a lot of us get into trouble with relationships. We do not think it takes effort and hard work. WRONG!
To better a relationship we have to better our communication skills. This sometimes seems to be a lost art. The quote I mentioned earlier, I interpret it as talking about the differences between men and women. There is a difference! Remember the famous book, Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus? We are different in how we listen and in how we talk. Knowing this can make a big difference in our communication skills.
With that said, we can now look at specific things about communication. About 90% of all communication is nonverbal in nature! Wow! That is pretty powerful when you think about it. You may be thinking what does this have to do with self-love? You need an ally, a true friend who reminds you at all times that you are more than your flaws, quirks, and that you are loved. When I began my own self-love journey this was so important, having people around me who were also going through their own life stuff, but having them be a balance of support and also helping me to confront what I needed to really came in handy when I doubted myself.
Friendship is full of wonderful things, someone who helps us through the good times and the not-so good times. Someone who you can be yourself with, express yourself to, and have by your side as you grow into who you are suppose to be. Friendship, also like self-love, has to be a combination of intimacy, passion and commitment. I have always liked that self-love is about taking care of ourselves, but that when we are with others, our self-love can be seen by others. That is how self-love is spread! When others see you modeling self-love, they can see it and begin to adopt self-love practices that they will in turn model for others!
I believe a true friend is always there, never judges, and won’t always have advice for us, but they WILL listen to us, offer a shoulder to cry on and watch our back. Friendship isn’t about who you’ve known the longest, it’s about who came, stayed by your side, and never left you when you needed someone the most.
One of my favorite quotes says the following, “Surround yourself with people who are for you not against you. It’s not about the quantity of friends, it’s about the quality of your friends.” -Joel Osteen
I hope that we all find those friends that make our summers, our lives, our ways – different, especially a friend who reminds us of our worth and how we should love ourselves.
WILL YOU CONTINUE TO PRACTICE SELF-LOVE DAILY AND CONTINUE WITH ME TO FURTHER THE SELF-LOVE REVOLUTION!!