The title of my book: Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works, can give the impression that the message is to focus on yourself to the exclusion of others.
This idea could not be farther from the truth.
Loving yourself is the foundation for loving others.
My mother died in 2008 which was a devastating loss for me. But I am blessed to have a mother-in-law who I love dearly and who is still with us. We will celebrate her 99th birthday this summer! She still lives at home with one of her daughters and a care-giver in San Francisco. She has 8 children, and we take turns caring for her every weekend.
Today I will pick her up and bring her to our house for the weekend. We are invited to bring her to our daughter’s parents-in-laws house for dinner tonight, and tomorrow she will be surrounded by her grandchildren and great grandchildren for our weekly Sunday Family dinner.
I can feel the love in my heart as I focus on her visit this weekend. I give her my full attention. I am responsible for her medications, making sure she drinks her water, gets to the bathroom on time, gets up and moves around, and rests when she needs to. I do my best to ensure that she doesn’t get leg cramps by massaging her legs before bed, and plan activities to keep her interested and engaged. I stay close by during her morning routine of brushing her teeth, rinsing her mouth, washing her face and hair, because she fears falling when she’s in the bathroom. I help her get dressed and apply her makeup.
In order to be present with her in this way, I need to love myself with the same intention and focus I give her.
Going to bed early so I can be rested, stretching so I am comfortable in my body, eating well so I have energy, being in the moment, and making sure I make time to relax are all ways I will focus on loving myself this weekend. When I love myself to the best of my ability, I am free to share that love more abundantly with her.
Do you have someone you love who you care for? Do you have children, aging parents, others who need your care?
In the Self-Love Diet, I have redefined the word diet to mean: “things regularly offered.”
Remember to regularly offer yourself the love and compassion you give to those in your care.
Blessings on your Self-Love Diet!
Michelle Minero, the Co-Founder of this blog and the overarching Love Warrior Community published her book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works. You can buy her book online or at stores in Petaluma, Sonoma and Healdsburg, California. You can also purchase a copy Michelle’s book through Amazon. For upcoming events and book signings, visit Michelle’s Events page.
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. Her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies.
Michelle created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter.