Balance is important to me. It’s necessary for me to feel how I want to feel. When I’m imbalanced I can tell through my low energy, my irritability, my lack of motivation, my sore muscles – I can feel it through a lot of different indicators.
I’m starting to pay more attention to my emotional and physical signals for what I need to feel balanced. Sometimes I need to go outside. I need fresh air, nature and a change of venue. Sometimes I need human contact. I need to call a friend, visit my sister and nieces or go out for coffee or lunch. Sometimes my body is telling me I’m tired. I need to take a nap or go to sleep. Sometimes I feel my body telling me I need movement, food, water or I need to reground my energy.
These are the small everyday things that my body, emotions and thoughts communicate to me when I listen. Listening to these small everyday changes in my thought patterns, emotions and body helps me to cultivate balance.
Outside of listening to the unspoken dialogue with myself to foster balance, it also helps me to break up my day. Instead of focusing on only the Love Warrior Community and the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge one day, something else on the next day and so on, I like to incorporate many tasks and interactions throughout my day. I tend to hyperfocus, but working on one thing all day drains me, partly because I see no progress in the other areas of my life.
Instead of doing a lot of work with the Love Warrior Community. I’ll work on the Love Warrior Community, I’ll work on the publication I’m creating, The Human Experience, I’ll work with preparing for and promoting the EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc) Conference that’s coming up this February, I’ll work on writing assignments for Curve magazine and so on. I like to break up my work among different projects each day and by doing that I see consistent progress each day, which prevents me from feeling like I’m falling behind.
I also tend to overwork, so I have to consciously focus on adding non-work interactions into my day: calling my sister to go for a walk during her lunch break, going to my other sister’s house to visit with her and my nieces and turning off my computer at night to detach from it and to connect with my environment around me..
I just don’t crave balance within my work life, but within every aspect of my life. Do I feel balanced with my relationships with my friends and family? Do I feel balanced with my relationship with myself?
If I don’t, all I need to do is listen to my body, my emotions and my thoughts. If I listen, they will tell me how I feel and what I need to do cultivate balance.
When you listen to the unspoken dialogue you have with yourself, what does it tell you? What could you do to foster more balance in your life?
– Emelina Minero
31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge
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