How do you tell if the decisions you make are loving ones? Choosing the most loving action can be confusing.
The Self-Love Diet tip for today is to take some time throughout the day to figure out if your actions are loving or not. Can you tell the difference?
Is writing every day in the 31-Day Self-Love Diet Writing Challenge an example of Self-Love?
If you are writing everyday, it may be a Self-Love Diet action because you’re following through with a commitment and focusing on loving yourself. If you need to enhance your ability to create structure and follow through, then perhaps the most loving thing would be to make sure you don’t miss a day of writing.
Is this Self-Love or Not?
If you push through your body’s signals to go to sleep to write a post, and you need to listen to your body more, and treat it more lovingly, then perhaps the most loving thing that night would have been to go to bed instead of writing.
If you take days off from writing, it may be a Self-Love Diet action because you’re being gentle with yourself and are not pursuing perfectionistic tendencies by making yourself write every day. But what if you have a tendency to start things and not finish? Would it be more loving to follow through with your commitment to yourself? It may or may not be. Only you will know what the most loving thing for you to do is.
If you decide to read others’ posts instead of writing posts, would that be Self-Love or Not?
It may be a Self-Love Diet action because you are benefiting from others’ journeys and perhaps this journey is a private one that you are not comfortable sharing.
If your decision not to write is based on an “old story” that “I’m not a writer” or “Who would be interested in what I have to say?” then perhaps it would be more loving to stretch your “psychological muscles” and venture out into new territory by writing at least one post to see how it feels.
As you can see, there are not black/white, yes/no answers to the question, “Is It Self-Love or Not?”
Discerning what is the most loving thing in any moment is a process that takes practice. The more Self-Love Diet decisions you make, the more clarity you will gain with each choice.
Blessings on your Self-Love Diet journey,
31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge
January is Self-Love month, and it marks the 4th year that we’ve hosted the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge. You can participate by submitting your self-love writing to be published on this blog. You can submit your writing here. You can also participate by writing your self-love posts on your own blog and linking back to the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge, 2014 blog post and Facebook event. If you don’t start on January 1st, that’s fine! You can jump into the challenge whenever you want.
Win a Copy of Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works
Each blog post you write is one entry into our random drawing to win an autographed copy of my book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works. You’ll also be entered into our drawing to win our upcoming Self-Love e-products that we’ll be announcing soon.
If you don’t feel comfortable sharing your self-love writing, you can write in a journal or write yourself self-love emails. If writing isn’t for you, simply reading others’ self-love writing can be powerful and beneficial to you on your self-love journey.
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. Michelle’s book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works, was published on January 23, 2013. You can purchase a copy through Amazon. Her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies.
Michelle created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded theLove Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter.