This question comes from the overwhelmingly positive response to this year’s 31-Day Self-Love Diet Writing Challenge!
Have you heard the saying, “You have to be careful for what you wish for because you just might get it”?
I’ve wished for more people to focus on loving themselves. I’ve wished for people to understand the concepts in the Self-Love Diet. I’ve wished for more people to become actively involved in the Love Warrior Community, the Self-Love Warrior Blog and the Self-Love Face Book Page.
This year my wishes have come true!
As I write this post, Emelina, the co-founder of the Love Warrior Community, has 4 more blog posts to publish to be finished with all the Self-Love writing submissions we’ve received for day four in this month.
Today is January 9th. We are behind.
I notice the following thoughts: “I must be responsible, professional and accountable to everyone who has accepted the 31-Day Self-Love Diet Writing Challenge by posting their submissions on the date they send them.” “What will they think of me when they don’t see their writings posted promptly?” and “They’ll think I’m not professional.” “I’m not doing enough.”
Thank goodness I’ve developed the skill of “just noticing” my thoughts, but not before I experienced a couple of nights of restless sleep! I have to admit this is a wonderful “problem” to have!!
So… the Self-Love Diet Tip #9 is to not worry about what others think of you. So if you’re not worrying about what others think of you, what DO you do? The answer is to focus on what’s important.
I’m clear that my purpose in life is to love myself and to help others love themselves.
When I notice myself feeling anxious because of my run-away thoughts, I remind myself of my purpose and I encourage Emelina to love herself by resting, balancing her days and nights with her other work, exercise, and other forms of self-love and care. I also offer to help her on my days off.
I trust that the most important thing for people accepting the writing challenge is the writing itself, which is an act of love for all involved.
The posting is important, but healing is happening whether they’re posted on the day submitted or not.
And… we are modeling Self-Love and imperfection by doing our best with an amazingly wonderful response to our 31-Day Self-Love Diet Writing Challenge!
When I ask myself the question again, “What will they think?” I will choose some different scenarios. Since I’m making up the beliefs that people will think I’m not professional, I might as well make up beliefs that are loving. I decide to believe that people are grateful to me and Emelina for organizing a format for them to focus on Self-Love. This is probably closer to the truth. If it’s not, it feels a lot better to decide to believe it anyway!
Blessings on your 31-Day Self-Love Diet Writing Challenge,
– Michelle Minero
31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge
January is Self-Love month, and it marks the 4th year that we’ve hosted the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge. You can participate by submitting your self-love writing to be published on this blog. You can submit your writing here. You can also participate by writing your self-love posts on your own blog and linking back to the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge, 2014 blog post and Facebook event. If you don’t start on January 1st, that’s fine! You can jump into the challenge whenever you want.
Win a Copy of Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works
Each blog post you write is one entry into our random drawing to win an autographed copy of my book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works. You’ll also be entered into our drawing to win our upcoming Self-Love e-products that we’ll be announcing soon.
If you don’t feel comfortable sharing your self-love writing, you can write in a journal or write yourself self-love emails. If writing isn’t for you, simply reading others’ self-love writing can be powerful and beneficial to you on your self-love journey.
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. Michelle’s book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works, was published on January 23, 2013. You can purchase a copy through Amazon. Her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies.
Michelle created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter.