Sometimes I feel like I have to justify all of my actions. Where I go to school, where I choose to work, who I hang out with, the food I eat, why I have natural hair, etc. Why did all of these things become so important all of a sudden? Are you genuinely interested in my well-being or being genuinely nosey?
Society makes it extremely difficult for me as an African American female to do anything out of my statistical range so why are my actions continuously challenged? Yes I am going back to school to pursue my PHD because I can. Oh you have loans you say? So does everyone else in the world! Yes I am going back to Europe; I made too many memories and lasting friendships because I can. Yes I have natural hair because I didn’t trust anyone to perm it while abroad and because I can. Yes I am a vegetarian and freak out and question the quality of all foods I eat because I can. Yes I am going to fall in love with the person who is taking the time to really learn about me because I can. Yes I call many friends my best friends because they are my best friends from different points in my life and I feel the need to clarify and because I can.
The moment you feel like you have to prove your worth to someone is the moment you need to walk away from them. So I’m walking away from this world and all of its justifications, qualifications and judgments. I have never felt anything less than a superwoman so I am not going to start now. I dare you to question me now.
31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge
January is Self-Love month, and it marks the 4th year that we’ve hosted the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge. You can participate by submitting your self-love writing to be published on this blog. You can submit your writing here. You can also participate by writing your self-love posts on your own blog and linking back to the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge, 2014 blog post and Facebook event. If you don’t start on January 1st, that’s fine! You can jump into the challenge whenever you want.
Win a Copy of Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works
Each blog post you write is one entry into our random drawing to win an autographed copy of my book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works. You’ll also be entered into our drawing to win our upcoming Self-Love e-products that we’ll be announcing soon.
If you don’t feel comfortable sharing your self-love writing, you can write in a journal or write yourself self-love emails. If writing isn’t for you, simply reading others’ self-love writing can be powerful and beneficial to you on your self-love journey.