In my Book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works, I devote Chapter 28, “Mirror Neurons/Mirror Work” to explaining the discovery of mirror neurons in the brain and their implications for learning. The research of Giaccomo Rizzolatti shows us that we learn through imitation, or by mirroring the people around us. l explore how you can re-learn to love yourself, or deepen the love you already have. Here is an excerpt:
If you were lucky you had an alert, present, loving mother who held you close to her heart, offered you her breast or bottle and looked deeply into your eyes with love overflowing. Your mirror neurons were able to let you know that this person’s intentions were to love you, and from that you learned that you were lovable. This bonding is at the heart of attachment theory, which elucidates your ability to love yourself and to create healthy attachments and relationships throughout your life.
Have you had the experience of looking into someone’s eyes and feeling a deep connection? This is what I want you to experience with yourself.
Let’s revisit the Self-Love Diet Tip #1 which was Compliment Yourself.
In my first Self-Love post for this year I encouraged you to give yourself an authentic compliment each day. I asked you to back it up with an example so you would have “evidence” that this positive quality was true.
Today I’m inviting you to add even more power to your compliment. Look into your eyes when you give yourself the compliment. It only takes a few moments, a minute at most. Stop, take a breath and look into your eyes, not at your eyes, not at your imagined flaws. Look into your eyes and remind yourself about a positive quality you have and give yourself an example.
Here’s what I said to myself yesterday:
“You are a good person. Your purpose in life is to love yourself and to help others love themselves. You are not perfect because you are human, but you do your best to love yourself each day. By practicing what you write about you are helping others.”
Will you take a few moments each morning to look into your eyes and give yourself a heart felt compliment or words of encouragement?
I hope you will, and if you do, I’d love to hear about your experience.
Blessings on your Self-Love Diet 31-day writing challenge.
31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge
January is Self-Love month, and it marks the 4th year that we’ve hosted the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge. You can participate by submitting your self-love writing to be published on this blog. You can submit your writing here. You can also participate by writing your self-love posts on your own blog and linking back to the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge, 2014 blog post and Facebook event. If you don’t start on January 1st, that’s fine! You can jump into the challenge whenever you want.
Win a Copy of Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works
Each blog post you write is one entry into our random drawing to win an autographed copy of my book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works. You’ll also be entered into our drawing to win our upcoming Self-Love e-products that we’ll be announcing soon.
If you don’t feel comfortable sharing your self-love writing, you can write in a journal or write yourself self-love emails. If writing isn’t for you, simply reading others’ self-love writing can be powerful and beneficial to you on your self-love journey.
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. Michelle’s book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works, was published on January 23, 2013. You can purchase a copy through Amazon. Her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies.
Michelle created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter.