The Self-Love Diet offers you a lifetime of loving thoughts, emotions, actions and relationships. But how do you begin?
Yesterday I went over step number three in the 5-Step Process, replacing your thoughts. Today I will go over step number four in the 5-Step Process: Apologize to yourself.
The 5-Step Process
The Five-Step Process is a powerful Self-Love Diet tool. When this process becomes second nature, you will notice more loving thoughts and emotions within yourself and for others in your life.
Here are the 5 steps:
#1 Catch your thought.
#2 Confront your thought by asking, “Who says?”
#3 Replace the thought.
#4 Apologize to yourself.
#5 Commit to change.
Once you have honed the first three steps of catching, confronting and replacing your thoughts, you will begin to notice a shift in your emotional well being. Now you are ready for step four:
Step Four: Apologize to yourself:
Has someone ever apologized to you, but you didn’t feel it was authentic? The words “I’m sorry” can have a hollow ring when it doesn’t come from the heart and is not backed up by a change in behavior.
When you apologize to yourself you want to be sincere. This can be hard, especially if a part of you still believes the critical statements you’ve been making to yourself. If this is true for you, try this. Think of a time you said something mean or critical to yourself. Remember how you felt about yourself afterwards. Now think of someone you love, and who loves you. This person is someone who has been there for you in times of need, and who you trust.
Now imagine you said the critical statement to this person instead of yourself. How might your apology be different? Would it be more heartfelt?
I’ve had clients tell me, “Michelle, I would never say what I said to myself to that person!” If this is also true for you, now you may have more motivation to apologize to yourself.
By apologizing to yourself you are acknowledging that you have hurt yourself and that you need to change.
We have all said negative things to ourselves, and since we’re human, we will continue to do so over the course of our lives. The Self-Love Diet encourages us to be aware of our thoughts, emotions and actions. When you apologize to yourself it gives you the opportunity to forgive yourself and make changes that will bring more love into your life and the lives of those you love.
How would your life be different if you regularly caught your disrespectful thoughts, confronted them, replaced them and apologized to yourself?
I hope you’ll use these tips during the rest of these days in January and let us know what you notice.
Blessings on your Self-Love Diet 31-day writing challenge.
31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge
January is Self-Love month, and it marks the 4th year that we’ve hosted the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge. You can participate by submitting your self-love writing to be published on this blog. You can submit your writing here. You can also participate by writing your self-love posts on your own blog and linking back to the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge, 2014 blog post and Facebook event. If you don’t start on January 1st, that’s fine! You can jump into the challenge whenever you want.
Win a Copy of Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works
Each blog post you write is one entry into our random drawing to win an autographed copy of my book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works. You’ll also be entered into our drawing to win our upcoming Self-Love e-products that we’ll be announcing soon.
If you don’t feel comfortable sharing your self-love writing, you can write in a journal or write yourself self-love emails. If writing isn’t for you, simply reading others’ self-love writing can be powerful and beneficial to you on your self-love journey.
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. Michelle’s book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works, was published on January 23, 2013. You can purchase a copy through Amazon. Her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies.
Michelle created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter.