Self-Love Diet Tip 1: The Art of Complimenting Yourself

Compliment Yourself

Loving yourself isn’t always easy or comfortable, even for practiced Love Warriors.

If you have found it difficult to think, act or feel loving towards yourself, here is a Self-Love Diet tip.

Start off by giving yourself a compliment. Does this sound simplistic? Perhaps, but simple doesn’t mean easy.

Have you ever received a compliment from someone and experienced some discomfort? Perhaps, instead of taking it in and thanking the person for the compliment, you diminished or refuted the compliment?

When you commit to the Self-Love Diet, honing the skill of receiving compliments will help you on your self-love journey. Let them in. Instead of waiting to receive compliments from others, you can start off your Self-Love practice by giving yourself daily compliments.

If you were taught somewhere along the line that saying positive things about yourself is conceited, it may be uncomfortable to give yourself a compliment. You may think you are being inauthentic, or feel resistance to saying good things about yourself. That’s O.K. Do it anyway.

In order to begin loving yourself, you need to see yourself in a positive light. Giving yourself a compliment each day is a good beginning, but you can strengthen the impact of that compliment by proving it to yourself.

Here’s the First Self-Love Diet Tip:

To super charge your compliment follow it up with an example.

Try this. Say, “I’m a good person.” Notice how you feel.

Now, follow this compliment up with an example.

Say, “I’m a good person because I helped that stranger pick up her groceries when her bag ripped in the parking lot of the grocery store.” Notice how you feel.

When you remember the experience of helping the woman, you are reliving the event. Your brain brings back the memory of the appreciation she gave you, the smile that accompanied her sincere “Thank You,” and if you pay attention, you may even feel a warmth in your chest that was a part of this positive experience for both of you.

Now the compliment, “I’m a good person” has power. It’s as if you’ve proved it to yourself that it is true. The next time you tell yourself you are a good person, you will have evidence and the likeliness of you believing this positive statement about yourself is increased 10 fold.

31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge

January is Self-Love month, and it marks the 4th year that we’ve hosted the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge. You can participate by submitting your self-love writing to be published on this blog. You can submit your writing here. You can also participate by writing your self-love posts on your own blog and linking back to the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge, 2014 blog post and Facebook event. If you don’t start on January 1st, that’s fine! You can jump into the challenge whenever you want.

Win a Copy of Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works

Each blog post you write is one entry into our random drawing to win an autographed copy of my book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works. You’ll also be entered into our drawing to win our upcoming Self-Love e-products that we’ll be announcing soon.

If you don’t feel comfortable sharing your self-love writing, you can write in a journal or write yourself self-love emails. If writing isn’t for you, simply reading others’ self-love writing can be powerful and beneficial to you on your self-love journey.

I hope you join us, and I’m excited to witness the self-love journey that each of us takes.

Blessings on your Self-Love Diet,

Michelle Minero


Self-Love Diet Front CoverMichelle Minero, the Co-Founder of this blog and the overarching Love Warrior Community published her book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works. You can buy her book online or at stores in Petaluma, Sonoma and Healdsburg, California. For upcoming events and book signings, visit Michelle’s Events page.


Michelle Minero, MFT 3Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. Michelle’s book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works, was published on January 23, 2013. You can purchase a copy through Amazon. Her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies.

Michelle created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter.

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2 Responses to Self-Love Diet Tip 1: The Art of Complimenting Yourself

  1. stephanie says:

    Self Love Diet – Day 1: The Art of complimenting yourself
    Now adays, I feel pretty good about myself and I’m happy at 52. I focus on the positives and enjoy life. I am both an introvert: analytical, reading books & writing and an extrovert: being social and dancing. I enjoy being outdoors: camping, hiking, kayaking. I LOVE water. I am a loyal friend and I am always honest. I appreciate quality time with both friends and family. I celebrate being my affectionate, passionate, compassionate, independent, authentic self as well as being a lesbian woman and feminist. I am also non-materialistic, a pacifist, and care deeply about the environment. I’m proud that I was able to quit smoking and successfully lose weight. I love my body! I’m proud to have a job that I love: being a teacher. I’m proud that was able to provide a home for my two lovely children, that I basically supported and raised on my own. I compliment people, even strangers, because I know it feels good to be complimented and feel appreciated. I acknowledge and accept compliments given to me but I don’t “gush” over them.

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