Is This About Her or You?

One of the biggest problems I face and that I noticed other women around me dealing with is criticizing other women, complete strangers, projecting hate and disrespect for no reason other than that we have been taught to do so.

We’ve been taught to find fault in other women, to compare ourselves and find either them or ourselves wanting, to blame a skinny woman for our weight, to blame a woman who wears low cut shirts for harassment issues, etc.

Whenever I find myself doing this or am with other women who are doing this, I take a second to stop and identify the real issue. Am I really angry with this woman for wearing a cute outfit that includes a short skirt or am I angry with myself for thinking I couldn’t wear that skirt? Then I tell myself that it is her choice to present herself how she wants, that maybe she struggled with putting on that outfit, too, but she chose to be confident and go out on a limb. I retract the negativity and send her positive thoughts. Then I make sure to send myself positivity, too.

Blame and hate are never the answer. Remind yourself and the other women in their lives that no one should be faulted for how their appearance affects you. You can control your thoughts. You can send love instead.

– Susie


31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge

January is Self-Love month, and it marks the 4th year that we’ve hosted the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge. You can participate by submitting your self-love writing to be published on this blog. You can submit your writing here. You can also participate by writing your self-love posts on your own blog and linking back to the 31-Day Self-Love Writing Challenge, 2014 blog post and Facebook event. If you don’t start on January 1st, that’s fine! You can jump into the challenge whenever you want.

Win a Copy of Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works

Each blog post you write is one entry into our random drawing to win an autographed copy of my book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works. You’ll also be entered into our drawing to win our upcoming Self-Love e-products that we’ll be announcing soon.

If you don’t feel comfortable sharing your self-love writing, you can write in a journal or write yourself self-love emails. If writing isn’t for you, simply reading others’ self-love writing can be powerful and beneficial to you on your self-love journey.

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One Response to Is This About Her or You?

  1. Dear Susie,
    Thanks so much for the important and pertinent message. Sending love instead of hate, blame and criticism is the answer.
    Blessings,
    Michelle

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