The prompt for this month is to let go of our critic. In my last blog post I shared a SoulCollage® card I made which I named “The Judge.” This image shows a man with a measuring tape measuring the buttocks of a long line of beauty queen contestants.
This image spoke to me when I saw it, reminding me of the Judge within myself that tells me my body is not good enough, and that I must compare and compete with other women for the prize, whatever that prize may be. The Judge goes beyond criticizing and judging my body as not good enough, and is not happy until I do not feel good enough.
The very next morning, after writing the prompt for this month of June suggesting we all fire our judges, I easily gave myself grace when I woke up at 5:30 am and decided not to jump out of bed and drive to the hot yoga class that started in a half an hour. I lingered a while longer, and I stretched in my living room while my daughters prepared to go for a run. My Self-Love Diet tool of asking myself, “What would love do?” was in gear when they invited me to go for a jog with them. I realized their goal of running 3 miles that morning was not in the best interest of my body. As I pondered the question, “What would love do?” I realized I could ride my bike, which would be easier for me, and I could still participate with my daughters.
What a glorious morning it was! I love riding my bike; it awakens the lively little girl within me who loves the feeling of freedom that riding a bike gives me. I caught up with my girls as I reached the park that is nestled below the soft rolling hills of Petaluma. The sun was coming over the rim of the hills as the sun was melting the mist away.
In the midst of all of this loveliness the Judge did come to visit. I was successful in letting him go. He was fired! I was formulating my blog post in my mind when I got back home. I didn’t have time to write it down before leaving for the office, but I was looking forward to sharing with you how I fired my judge and did not let him ruin the beautiful morning I had created.
After a meaningful and productive day at work, I came home and I could not remember how my judge was criticizing me or how I had fired him that morning!!
I was complaining to my daughter that I couldn’t remember what he said, or what I did to let him go, and she said, “Write about that, because it’s evidence that you fired him so completely that it’s no longer even in your mind!”
So, what I thought was a problem is actually my prayer for you.
May you live your life full of those people, activities, emotions and beliefs that fill you to the brim with gratitude for each day. When your Judge comes to steal your joy, I pray that you will fire him so quickly and decisively that it is over and forgotten, your joy returned to you and expanded to all areas of your life.
Blessings on your Self-Love Diet Journey,
Michelle E. Minero
Michelle Minero, the Co-Founder of this blog and the overarching Love Warrior Community published her book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works. You can buy her book online or at the Petaluma Copperfield’s bookstore. For upcoming events and book signings, visit Michelle’s Events page.
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. Michelle’s book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works, was published on January 23, 2013. You can purchase a copy through Amazon. Her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies.
Michelle created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005.
In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter.