Who knows who the winner will be for our March Contest?
At the end this month we will go over all of the Self-Love Diet Facebook posts and see who made the most mindful comments. The winner for the month will receive a free Self-Love Diet Journal.
This month will herald spring. March 20th is the first day of spring, or the vernal equinox. The word equinox comes from the Latin words meaning “equal night.” During this time of the year our days and nights are approximately equal. This made me think of the light and shadow in everything. Things are equally light and dark, or “good” or “bad” depending on our perspective.
There’s an old story whose origin I am uncertain, which comes to mind.
Good Luck, Bad Luck
There is a Chinese story of a farmer who used an old horse to till his fields. One day, the horse escaped into the hills and when the farmer’s neighbors sympathized with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer replied, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?” A week later, the horse returned with a herd of horses from the hills and this time the neighbors congratulated the farmer on his good luck. His reply was, “Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?”
Then, when the farmer’s son was attempting to tame one of the wild horses, he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone thought this was very bad luck. Not the farmer, whose only reaction was, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”
Some weeks later, the army marched into the village and conscripted every able-bodied youth they found there. When they saw the farmer’s son with his broken leg, they let him off. Now was that good luck or bad luck? Who knows?
The prompt for the month of March is to use the Self-Love Practice of suspending judgments. Just as the vernal equinox reminds us that our days and nights are approximately equal, let’s remember that all the things we judge as good or “light” have a shadow, just as those things that we judge as bad or “dark” have light.
Have you ever had the experience of looking at a life situation in retrospect and realizing that something you thought was a misfortune, actually turned out in your favor? Perhaps you lost your job, and now can see the opportunity it gave you to find a way to earn a living that offers more meaning and joy in your life. In retrospect, perhaps you realized that your prior job was an unhealthy situation which you would had stayed in if you hadn’t been let go.
A self-love practice is being in the moment. When you are not regretting the past, or worrying about the future, you are able to be in the present with what is. This is a gift. When you are able to be present with what is, do your best this month to try to be with it, whatever it is, without making it good or bad. Because really, who knows?
Blessings on your self-love journey,
Michelle Minero, the Co-Founder of this blog and the overarching Love Warrior Community published her book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works. You can buy her book online or at the Petaluma Copperfield’s bookstore. For upcoming events and book signings, starting March 16th, visit Michelle’s Events page.
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. Michelle’s book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works, was published on January 23, 2013. You can purchase a copy through Amazon. Her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies.
Michelle created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005.
In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter.