Dear Love Warrior Community,
Today I celebrate my birthday. I turn 28 years old at 6 PM this evening. I realized that this is the first birthday since I began working at the age of 15 that I have had my birthday off. I have either had work, attended school or at least put in a part day of work on my birthday since I was 15. 12 years later I realized what a gift it is to do what I want to do on my birthday, without any expectations, the ability to slow down and celebrate in a different way, in the way I choose.
As I journey through my self-love journey I realize what I have been missing out on by not taking time off for my birthday. It has taken me all that I have gone through to be able to come to a place of self-love where I can make my birthday my own, without work and without having to do something that accomplishes something. This is self-love.
Today started out by sharing a warm drink and a muffin over a loving conversation with someone who is near and dear to my heart. It was full of reflection, self-care and nurturing the progress that I have made in the last year. I then rested when I returned home and found a bouquet of flowers sent by my work. I let myself reflect on the people that are meaningful in my life and to whom I care deeply for. The flowers were a good reminder. I then spent time with somebody I love very closely and shared some laughs, conversation and love with. It was great to have a good belly laugh. After that I was treated by a woman I really look up to to lunch. We shared good conversation, love and compassion for one another. This was followed by a lovely walk home as well as conversations over the phone with those that I love. I then rested for a while before I prepared to go over to a friends for a lovely meal for dinner.
When my friend came over earlier in the day she brought me a piece of cake. You may think oh wow birthday cake, of course. For me it is so much more. From the ages of 13 to 25 I could not have a piece of cake for my birthday without purging it. Nor could I eat it any other time without purging it. I was able to look at this piece of cake and smile with gratitude. I was able to know that I would enjoy eating that piece of cake, intuitively, with love and without the fear that I would purge. I looked at that piece of cake knowing all of the eating disorder recovery work I’ve done to get to this place.
And now as the evening winds down and I prepare to go to my friends house, I look forward to conversation and that piece of cake. That piece of cake that symbolizes self-love, recovery and life.
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Lindsey Wert is a Marriage and Family Therapist in Sonoma County with special interest in treatment and prevention of eating disorders and sexual trauma. Lindsey’s passions are supporting women in learning how to love themselves from the inside out. Lindsey contributes to her community by giving eating disorder presentations, doing prevention work and supporting the health at every size movement. Visit Lindsey’s personal website, From the Inside Out: Self Love and Transformation