January 23, 2013
This was an auspicious day. Today is the day I’ve dreamt about without knowing it would be today. On this day the book I’ve been working on in earnest since 2004 was published! My body responded to this news as if I had drunken several cups of coffee; I was buzzing with energy and almost shaking. I could hardly contain my excitement, and felt like yelling out loud to the world that my book was finally birthed! I texted my husband at work and got a CONGRATULATIONS! text right back. My daughter who was my editor and co-creator of the Love Warrior Community was home when I found out. When I told her, we kept smiling and looking at each other, the emotion was beyond words.
When I got to work, my inner joy stayed with me throughout the day. When I got home, I began to feel a little down, it was confusing to me at first. I thought I might be feeling down because we didn’t celebrate in our usual way. My husband was not feeling well and was not up to his usual level of celebratory energy. In our family, when big things happen, our kids come over, my husband pops open a bottle of champagne and we make toasts. This milestone was unpredictable; the publishing date kept changing, so there was no way to invite the kids over for the celebration ahead of time.
When I listened to my emotions and spent some time in reflection, I realized I was sad. My sadness tells me what’s important to me. If I am sad about something it’s because there’s a loss of something that matters. In this case, my sadness was not about something, but rather about someone.
I realized I missed not being able to celebrate with my mother. She died in 2008. I remember she always told me how proud she was of me for working on this book and how she knew my book would help many people. All of a sudden my sadness made sense. I’m aware that the level of my sadness matched the level of the love that she shared with me, and that was a lot. I would not have it any other way.
One major lesson that self-love teaches is how to listen to our emotions. I’ve noticed my emotional life is very rich. I have many, sometimes seemingly, conflicting emotions together at the same time. Today was a good example of this. Today I experienced joy, excitement, disappointment, exaltation, contentment and sadness. All my emotions fit together and made sense once I loved myself enough to take the time to be with them all.
Tonight my husband and one of my daughters put on a new TV series called Girls and we watched two episodes while eating frozen yogurt. It wasn’t a champagne celebration, but it was just right.
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Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. Michelle’s book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works, was published on January 23, 2013. You can purchase a copy through Amazon. Her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies.
Michelle created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005.
In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter.