Dear Love Warrior Community,
Today has been a day filled with mixed emotions. This past year has been a year filled with mixed emotions. I have realized that I am learning to make a new life for myself, as well as beginning to establish new goals, values and a belief system for myself.
Growing up and as a young adult my belief system was centered around what I learned growing up, which was you have to be the best, nothing else will do, push yourself further than possible, don’t listen to your body, achievement and production equals success, if there’s no pain there’s no gain and never back down or follow through on an obligation or promise. I have lived in this system for many years.
Now as a young adult who will be turning 28 years old on January 24, I am learning and beginning to change these beliefs that are not the healthiest way to live, and I see that they served me, but now harm me.
I have learned that there is 100% truth in the fact that you can only love and truly be there for somebody else when you yourself love yourself first. Not being the best at something does not mean that you’re a failure, nor does it make you less valuable or less worthy of person. Success is not measured by the money in your bank account, or your status, it is measured by the love that you have, life and the people that you surrounded yourself by.
Your success comes through loving yourself, giving to yourself, as well as others, and maintaining balance and learning to set boundaries with yourself and with others. Success is not something that can be necessarily seen but is felt by the heart. Success is loving yourself, being emotionally honest with yourself and others, making a life of giving and receiving, building a community and foundation that supports growth and believing in yourself.
As I step into my new body and self I begin to live in my new beliefs… That my value and worth comes from my heart and who I am on the inside. My value and worth come from the love that comes from my heart, what I help nurture and grow in the world, as well as the essence of my true being. This comes from the place of spirit and soul, not from ego.
I choose to live in a new belief system each and every day, though it continues to be work, this is the place that I choose to reside. This I believe is the greatest form of self-love.
What are some beliefs or habits that you would like to change in your life? It is never too late. This moment starts now.
Love and light,
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Lindsey Wert is a Marriage and Family Therapist in Sonoma County with special interest in treatment and prevention of eating disorders and sexual trauma. Lindsey’s passions are supporting women in learning how to love themselves from the inside out. Lindsey contributes to her community by giving eating disorder presentations, doing prevention work and supporting the health at every size movement. Visit Lindsey’s personal website, From the Inside Out: Self Love and Transformation