Learning How To Relax

I feel great. In this moment, I am tired, but I feel really good. At the beginning of this month, when I started writing self-love posts consistently, I was in a slump. A few days before the new year began I felt my energy dropping. Throughout this self-love writing challenge, I noticed my energy levels raising slowly, and then I went to Palm Springs.

While I was there, I didn’t worry about work. I did do some work during my breaks while I was there, but I just let myself relax and fully enjoy the experience.

With my work being so closely aligned with my passions, I get addicted to it, which can be great, but it often leads to imbalance. It also can lead to this negative mindset where I begin to set unrealistic goals and deadlines, put too much on my plate and then berate myself when I’m not meeting my expectations. When my work becomes about moving on to the next deadline, and not about enjoying the process, it becomes exhausting very quickly.

It’s often hard for me to relax when I have a thousand and one things that I want to do and move forward with, but in Palm Springs I learned to relax, and it felt great. Since I’ve been back I’ve been living and working in a more relaxed state, and it feels amazing. Two nights ago I got 2 hours of sleep because I was working late, but I didn’t get down on myself or stress out; I just did what I needed to do and enjoyed it.

Since I’ve been back from Palm Springs, I’ve been living a more balanced life. Before I left, I saw two of my best friends maybe once a month. I’ve been back for about a week and I’ve seen them three times. I’ve been biking, hiking and getting out in nature and I’ve been more social. When I hyperfocus on work to a negative extent, I don’t do anything else.

These past three days have been more work strenuous, but I still got to play with my niece, bike, go on a hike with one of my friends, and last night I let myself sleep in.

I’m realizing that I can have and do everything. When I make balance my focus, I become more balanced, I have more energy, more focus and I’m happier. When I’m grounded in that way, my work thrives. I don’t have to sacrifice one for the other.

My self-love actions for today:

I slept in. I rode my bike. I played with my niece. I also did a lot of work, but I didn’t let stress hamper it, and I enjoyed all of it. Also, I didn’t drink caffeine at 8:30pm when I noticed my energy falling. I worked until 10:30pm, and then I stopped. I usually never stop. More often than not, I keep pushing myself to work later in the evening or early morning. I listened to my body, and now my mind isn’t fighting to put coherent thoughts together. Instead, it’s relaxing, and soon I’ll be enjoying a glass of red wine and an episode of Grey’s Anatomy before I go to sleep. ๐Ÿ™‚

P.S. This is what I stopped working on at 10:30pm. The home page isn’t finished, and all of the pages are blank, but I’m really liking my mom’s book site so far. ๐Ÿ™‚ย http://theselflovediet.org/

– Emelina Minero


Join us in the 31 Day Self-Love Writing Contest to win an autographed copy of Michelle Minero’s book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works.ย Read through the Self-Love Posting Guidelines for inspiration on different ways you can focus on bringing more love into your life through the 7 paths of the Self-Love Diet. Read through 2012’s monthly Self-Love Writing Prompts for ideas on topics you can write about to help you focus more on loving yourself, and read through others’ self-love posts for inspiration at the bottom of the prompts page. Share your self-love journey with us on Facebookย and Twitter.


Emelina Minero writes for Curve Magazine and EDGE Gay Media Network, and is Curve’s Social Media Manager. She’s launching her own progressive LGBTQ publication, The Human Experience. She’s a Connection Connoisseur, Networking Maven and Self-Love Enthusiast. She founded Community Bucket List and co-founded the Love Warrior Community. Find her on Twitter, @CommKr8veWriter.

About emelinaminero

I'm passionate about people, community, self-love and the diversity in the human experience.
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5 Responses to Learning How To Relax

  1. Karema Moheisen says:

    Woot! Good for you โค

  2. I’m so glad you are finding balance! During this process of publishing the book, I find that it’s even more important for me to focus on balance as well! I appreciate all you do,and I’m happy that you are doing it all in a relaxed more enjoyable way!

  3. Pingback: A Focus On Self-Love « Emelina Minero Writes

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