What I Have Learned

Dear LW Community,

Tonight I take time to write reflect on self-love. What I have learned is sometimes self-love is sitting down like I am at this very moment to take time to be in the moment With where I am at, what I am feeling and the reality of this moment. As I prepare emotionally, mentally and physically for my surgery I am grateful for those that I have in my life. I will share a few things that I have learned and am learning in my life.

What I have learned is that feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open and rules are flexible. This kind of atmosphere creates healing and promotes growth and transformation. I have learned that it is spirit and not the form of law that keeps justice alive. Each moment on this earth is precious, valuable and a gift. I’ve learned that you don’t change things by fighting them. You change things by building a new model that makes the existing model obsolete. I have learned that you never give a wish without also being given the power to make it true. The power resides within you. Sometimes you have to reach deeply, very deeply. The human spirit needs places where nature has not been rearranged by the hand of man. I have learned that self-respect and self-empowerment is learning to respect other people’s music, but learning to dance to your own tune. Mastering your harmony within yourself is important to maintain health and balance.

I have learned that Hellen Keller’s words are very true. “The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” I have learned that respecting yourself means listening to your body, your emotions and continuously accepting yourself where you are at. I have learned that hard work takes patience. Sacrificing focus never show up on a test. Kindness is an inner desire that makes us want to do good things. It is the joy of my life to do them. When I do good things from a place of self-compassion and love, I see kindness everywhere. And last of all, I leave you one of my favorite quotes. “Sit down before fact as a child, be prepared to give up every preconceived notion, follow humbly wherever and to whatever abysses nature leads, or you shall learn nothing.” Thomas Huxley

Love and light,


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Lindsey Wert is a Marriage and Family Therapist in Sonoma County with special interest in treatment and prevention of eating disorders and sexual trauma. Lindsey’s passions are supporting women in learning how to love themselves from the inside out. Lindsey contributes to her community by giving eating disorder presentations, doing prevention work and supporting the health at every size movement. Visit Lindsey’s personal website, From the Inside Out: Self Love and Transformation

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2 Responses to What I Have Learned

  1. You write so beautifully. 🙂

  2. Wow! I agree, it was a pleasure to read your post, thanks so much for taking the time to share your thoughts with us!
    Continued blessings, healing and love.

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