We Are Human Beings, Not Human Doings

Self-Love Day 7

Monday is my “couple” day. My husband and I take one day off during the week as our day.

Today we agreed to go in different directions. He needed to go to the DMV, and we both agreed to go with one of our daughters to two different doctor appointments. I also had an appointment with my book publisher and my editor today.

Although Mondays are my “day off” from the office, they have become one of my busier days because I am going through the steps necessary to get my book published, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works.

My Self-Love Action for today was the very first decision I made this morning. I could have chosen to go to my Tai Chi class this morning, which would have been a loving, kind choice for my body, but instead I choose to stay in bed and cuddle with my husband. We had the luxury of not having to be anywhere (since I decided not to go to my 7:45 am class) and just hung out together.

One important lesson I do my best to teach my clients is the difference between “being” and “doing.” I’m sure you’ve heard of the saying, “We are human beings, not human doings.”

I am constantly reminding myself to slow down and that my value is not dependent on what I do, but rather on who I am. It’s one of those lessons that I continue to learn in many different situations and across time.

This lesson is foundational to the Self-Love Diet. When we regularly offer ourselves love, it reminds us that we are intrinsically valuable. We don’t have to strive or accomplish great feats in order to deserve love. Our very being is enough. We deserve love because of who we are, not what we  do.

This morning I chose to “be” with myself, and my husband. It was a good choice. It helped balance out all of the activity I had planned for today.

I hope you will continue the 31-day self-love challenge and share your insights and actions with all of us at the Love Warrior Community.

Blessings on your journey,

Michelle Minero


Join us in the 31 Day Self-Love Writing Contest to win an autographed copy of Michelle Minero’s book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works. Read through the Self-Love Posting Guidelines for inspiration on different ways you can focus on bringing more love into your life through the 7 paths of the Self-Love Diet. Read through 2012’s monthly Self-Love Writing Prompts for ideas on topics you can write about to help you focus more on loving yourself, and read through others’ self-love posts for inspiration at the bottom of the prompts page. Share your self-love journey with us on Facebook and Twitter.


Michelle Minero, MFT 3Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. Michelle’s book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works, was published on January 23, 2013. You can purchase a copy through Amazon. Her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies.

Michelle created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005.

In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter.

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2 Responses to We Are Human Beings, Not Human Doings

  1. Lindsey Wert says:

    Beautiful Michelle. I am glad you choose to be and shared that beingness with your husband. Much love-Lindsey

  2. Pingback: We Are Human Beings, Not Human Doings | Love Warrior Community

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