I go through cycles of balance and imbalance. These cycles of imbalance usually stem from the self-perpetuation of self-critical thoughts or false beliefs.
False Belief One: I have to do everything now. Nothing can be put aside for later.
What This Belief Creates: My sleeping habits get thrown off. The past two nights I went to sleep at 4am. Yesterday I woke up at 3pm. Today I woke up at 1:30pm.
Unusual sleeping habits disrupt my daily flow, and eventually lead to inefficient working and living habits, which leads to an imbalance.
When I become less effective in how I want to live and work, I start to think negatively about myself. Why am I doing X? Why am I not doing B? These negative thoughts perpetuate more negative thoughts and more false beliefs, further throwing me off balance.
A day or two before I started writing these self-love posts, I started to notice myself getting off balance, and since I started writing these self-love posts, I’ve been mainly focusing on my thoughts.
If I don’t get something done that I want to finish, I tell myself that it’s okay, and that I have tomorrow to continue working on it. If I have a hard time going to sleep, instead of berating myself about not being able to fall asleep, I focus on doing something productive or I focus on relaxing and unwinding and being okay with being awake. If I wake up at 3pm, instead of getting upset with myself for a lot of the day being gone, I tell myself that I have right now to do what I want with my day. Whenever I notice a negative thought slipping in, I acknowledge it and then let it go, and more and more I’ve been replacing those negative thoughts with thoughts of gratitude and appreciation.
I’ve been noticing my energy shifting to a more positive frequency, and it feels good. 🙂 I’m excited to continue to make self-love my focus this month, and I’m excited to see how it impacts me.
– Emelina Minero
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Emelina Minero writes for Curve Magazine and EDGE Gay Media Network, and is Curve’s Social Media Manager. She’s launching her own progressive LGBTQ publication, The Human Experience. She’s a Connection Connoisseur, Networking Maven and Self-Love Enthusiast. She founded Community Bucket List and co-founded the Love Warrior Community. Find her on Twitter, @CommKr8veWriter.