How I Work Best

Yesterday I wrote about working through my work-life balance issues from the point of view of needing more people-focused days and more of a social life. Today began as a light work day, and it wasn’t very people focused; it was more relaxed and watch Grey’s Anatomy focused. I realized that do-nothing days are not very relaxing. I also realized that I feel like I’m missing something from my day if I don’t get any work done.

My self-love act for today, I turned off Grey’s Anatomy, vacuumed, helped my brother move some things into the moving truck and did some work, which fortunately for me revolved all around self-love. Once I got up and started to do things, I began to feel a lot more fulfilled.

I learned that:

The act of watching a lot of TV in one sitting is not very enjoyable, even if the TV show I’m watching is.

I need to be productive every day to be happy. I can be productive in many ways, cleaning my space so I feel better, going for a walk, hanging out with my family, doing work.

I need a mix of passion-work and people to be happy. Without people-focused moments and days, I start to feel isolated or like I’m being a bad friend, communicative human being, etc. If I’m not working, I’m not fulfilled because I’m passionate about my work, and I’m not fulfilled because I start to become self-critical and tell myself things like I’m not doing enough, or I’m not progressing quickly enough, or I’m not taking action on what I want in life and so forth.

I need a balance of the two, in-person people interaction and my work. When I began working on The Human Experience, a queer/ally publication, I had weekly video chat meetings with the 3 other people who I founded the publication with. It wasn’t in-person communication, but we were a team and we’d chat regularly and see each others’ faces weekly. We brainstormed and planned and worked together on a common goal brought together by our passions and personal self-growth goals. It reminded me of my senior year in college when I was the Editor-in-Chief of the school newspaper. It reminded me of that team-family environment.

That element, that people element was what I was missing from all of my other passion projects and from my work. I want and need that team-family environment. I’m passionate about community building, encouraging others in their goals and growth and creating supportive family-like environments. I can do that when creating online communities and projects, but it’s not the same when it’s lacking in-person connections and that in-person team environment.

Noted, I thrive when I get to work with and create that in-person team environment.

Also, I want to incorporate how I focus into my exploration of creating more balance in my life. My focus works in spurts. I’m really good at putting all of my attention on one project at a time, and it doesn’t have to be over a long period of time. One day could be all focused on one thing, and the next day I could be focused on something else. Or in the morning I could be focused on one thing, and then in the evening on something else. Clarity doesn’t come to me as easily when I’m multi-tasking, but when all of my focus is on one thing at a time I think clearly and work effectively.

Also, if I don’t do something when it occurs to me, I may not do it. So I should either do something in the moment, or have a system where I can write it down somewhere visible so I will remember to do it later, and I should put down a deadline or a specified time and date to do X.

I work best with small goals, a time/milestone outline of the greater picture and a clear image of my larger goal so I know what I’m working towards.

I want to start paying attention to how my brain processes things, how I work best and what things in life bring me balance and happiness so I can start acting on all of these things to create a nice work-life balance.

– Emelina Minero


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Emelina Minero writes for Curve Magazine and EDGE Gay Media Network, and is Curve’s Social Media Manager. She’s launching her own progressive LGBTQ publication, The Human Experience. She’s a Connection Connoisseur, Networking Maven and Self-Love Enthusiast. She founded Community Bucket List and co-founded the Love Warrior Community. Find her on Twitter, @CommKr8veWriter.

About emelinaminero

I'm passionate about people, community, self-love and the diversity in the human experience.
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3 Responses to How I Work Best

  1. Pingback: A Focus On Self-Love « Emelina Minero Writes

  2. Lindsey Wert says:

    Beautiful thank you for sharing Emelina:)

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