My self-love actions today, beginning with last night:
I put in effort to go to sleep early last night so I would get good sleep and be well rested for today. I didn’t get a lot of sleep, but I slept well, and I slept more than I would have if I went to sleep later.
I slept in for an hour this morning.
I ate breakfast, made myself some Passion tea, got dressed, made some posts to the Curve Facebook page, and then scheduled some posts for the afternoon so I wouldn’t have to worry about being away from the computer mid-day. That piece of Curve prep work allowed me to spend time with my niece without worrying about things-to-do.
Last night, I told my sister that I’d watch Ninel, my niece, during the mornings so she could go to the gym, go for a run or run errands. I’ve been wanting to spend more time with Ninel and I’ve been wanting to help Renee, my oldest sister, to relax more, especially because she’s pregnant with my second niece, Lena.
I’ve also been wanting to get out of the house more and create a routine where I’m regularly making room to interact with others outside of my house. Work for me is so integrated with my passions that my work and life are basically the same thing, which is great because I love my work, but there’s also downsides. One downside is lacking an overall work-life balance.
One of those recent imbalances has been a lack of a social life. When my passions and work intersect, it’s hard to separate myself from my work, especially when I go through focus kicks and am making a lot of progress in my goals. When I go through these focus kicks, I get this great high from life, and it’s difficult for me to take myself away from that.
Eventually, when I put all of my focus on work, there’s a turning point where I start to feel drained emotionally because I essentially begin to isolate myself from others when I become too engrained in my work.
From my work, I get these really cool social experiences, like going to Las Vegas this past December to volunteer at the OutMusic Awards, getting a free hotel room for 4 nights and being able to invite my friends and offer them the same experience. Through work, in 5 days I’m going to Palm Springs and I’ll be doing all of these fun things, and it’s all paid for. Although these are great experiences, and they definitely contribute to my social life, they are separate from my daily social life.
I want to be active in the everyday in-person experiences that surround me because these opportunities, experiences and people won’t always be in my life, or won’t always be so easily accessible as they are right now.
This is one of my new self-love focuses, appreciating the people, experiences and opportunities around me, and focusing more on stepping away from the computer and into the lives of the people around me.
Today, I spent time playing with my niece, chatted with my sister Renee when she came back home, went to the movies with my brother, Albert, who will be moving to LA on Sunday, and chatted with my sister Kristina when she came over. Today was a people-focused day instead of a work-focused day. To be more loving to myself, I want to start having more of these days in my everyday life.
– Emelina Minero
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Emelina Minero writes for Curve Magazine and EDGE Gay Media Network, and is Curve’s Social Media Manager. She’s launching her own progressive LGBTQ publication, The Human Experience. She’s a Connection Connoisseur, Networking Maven and Self-Love Enthusiast. She founded Community Bucket List and co-founded the Love Warrior Community. Find her on Twitter, @CommKr8veWriter.