Monday was a special day. I received many unique gifts. From smallest to largest, my first gift was finding out I did not need any further dental work. My second gift was picking up two dresses for my daughter’s wedding and finding that the alterations made were perfect.
My third gift was a sense of relief and accomplishment from finishing the editing of my manuscript for my book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works. The next gift I received was being able to play with my granddaughter in my home while her parents went to the Obgyn to find out the sex of their next baby.
It would be a stretch to say that the following event was a gift. I got a call from my cousin letting me know that my last living uncle died that morning at 7:00 am. It was such a contrast to the joy of the day.
My uncle was 91-years-old and had been unhealthy for a while. I was present with my sadness at the same time that I was surrounded by the fun and energy of my 18-month-old granddaughter. What a juxtaposition of emotions. It was heartening to experience the intensity of the joy of my granddaughter, and still feel the grief and sadness of the loss of the last living relative from my father’s generation.
After some thought, I realized that this was also a gift. My personal recovery allows me to be present with a myriad of emotions without the need to numb, distract or deny them. I experienced the gift of being present with the complexity of life. I hope you already have this ability, or one day will be able to add it to your list of gifts.
The final gift came as my daughter and son-in-law walked through the door to announce the upcoming birth of our next granddaughter! That day felt like all of life’s experiences had condensed into one 24-hour period.
What unique gifts have you noticed that can’t be wrapped in a box? I invite you to share them with us on our group blog. You can submit your self-love posts here. I look forward to reading about your experiences.
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. Michelle’s book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works, will be published January, 2013. Her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies.
Michelle created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011,
Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter and help spread the Self-Love Movement!