The month of July has been a “writing month” for me. I’m coming close to the end of my manuscript for my book, Self-Love: The Only Diet that Works. That’s why it’s July 16th, and this is the first post I’ve written for our blog this month!
Since July is the month we celebrate our independence from England, I thought it was timely to have this month be independent of a structured prompt. I invite you to continue your Self-love Diet by contributing to the Self-Love Warrior blog. By regularly offering yourself a space and time to write about your personal journey, you are solidifying it for yourself through self-reflection. By sharing your writing on the blog you get an added benefit of connecting with others, and the element of knowing others will read your writing helps you see yourself from another perspective.
When you contribute to the Love Warrior Community through the blog you can do so by publicly by sending a photo and bio. If you already have a blog or a site that is simpatico with the Self-Love Diet, you can submit your link so our communities can support one another. You may also contribute your writings anonymously. Use the blog in whichever way helps you on your journey to self-love.
If it would be helpful to see different prompts, you can scroll down and choose one that fits for you. In order to keep our blog centered on the concepts of the Self-Love Diet, I have created posting guidelines.
You can use self-love journaling as a tool to enhance your self-love practice. You can use it to reflect on large portions of your life or to reflect on a specific moment in time.
- How have you overcome struggles or obstacles to your Self-love Diet?
- What successes have you experienced?
- What revelations have occurred for you while actively working on bringing more self-love into your life?
Here are 7 aspects of the Self-Love Diet that you can use as a guide to help you get the most out of your self-love writing practice.
7 Strands of The Self-Love Diet
How can you love your body?
Give examples of challenging times with a positive “turn around” through appreciation or gratitude, or focus on what your body does for you vs. what it looks like.
For example: I rub my “body love” lotion on my belly and tell my belly I love it because it’s the one area of my body that I used to criticize daily. I noticed that my love for my belly grew as my critical thoughts dissipated.
How can you love yourself when you experience difficult emotions?
Show examples of self-love through the ability to self-soothe without using eating disordered or addictive processes. Give examples of how your thoughts or behaviors had a positive affect on your emotions.
For example: I noticed I was going to the pantry looking for cereal to eat. I stopped and went through my check list of emotions, HALT. Was I hungry or hurt? Was I anxious or angry? Was I lonely? Was I tired? I noticed I wasn’t hungry, I was tired. Going to bed was a more loving choice than eating the cereal.
How can your thoughts reflect self-love?
Give examples of how being aware of your thoughts helped you to experience self-love, such as catching your negative thoughts and changing them to positive thoughts.
For example: I noticed I was focusing on what wasn’t going right one day. I began to feel frustrated. I caught my thoughts and consciously began to count my blessings. I felt so much better!
How can your spiritual self increase your ability to love yourself?
Write about how focusing on your spiritual nature vs. your physical body allowed you to be more loving to yourself and others.
For example: I have a practice of looking into my self-love mirror. Rather than looking at my eyes, I look into my eyes, into my soul, and tell myself that my value does not depend on how I look, or what I do, but rather on who I am, a valuable, lovable human being. This also helps me to be more accepting and loving of others.
How can your relationships help your Self-Love Diet?
Give an example of how your relationship with yourself is improving, or notice how you are improving your relationships with others, which empowers you to love yourself more.
For example: I notice less self-depreciating thoughts flit by. When they do, I let them go without hanging on to them. If someone compliments me, I receive it and enjoy it.
Saying “no” when I’m asked to do something for someone else that would take away important time with myself is an example of my increasing self-love and setting clear boundaries in my relationships. I notice my relationships strengthening.
How can I practice my Self-Love Diet in our weight obsessed culture?
Tell a story of how you were able to love yourself in spite of our unsupportive culture, or tell us how you created a self-loving culture.
For example: I’ve carefully chosen the magazines in the waiting room of my office. I don’t allow People, Cosmopolitan or other magazines that focus on the “ideal thin body” with images of airbrushed bodies. I’ve created a haven from these images for people who wait in my office.
How can loving yourself translate into loving the world?
Give an example of how loving yourself has expanded your ability to be of service to others.
For example: A by product of my personal Self-Love Diet is this book. By focusing on loving myself I’ve been able to share my knowledge and experience to help others. Since I no longer wake up each day focusing on what I am going to eat, or not eat, or what I weigh, I now have the energy to focus on helping others in the world.
How can loving the world translate into loving yourself?
Give an example of how focusing on helping others has helped you to love yourself more.
For example: Perhaps you’ve contributed to supporting a child in a less fortunate country. By helping others and realizing that there are so many people who don’t have the basic requirements of food, shelter, clothing and clean water, it can help you to remember that there are more important things in life than focusing on your appearance. By helping others, it also helps you to love yourself more by touching into the compassionate part within you and reminds you to be loving towards yourself.
I’m excited for you to actively write about your self-love practice!
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. She created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Michelle is finishing her book, Self-Love: The Only Diet That Works, and her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter and help spread the Self-Love Movement!