This month of June is coming to a close. It’s offered us opportunities to go to weddings, graduations and celebrate Father’s Day. June also brings us the Summer solstice, the longest day of the year which marks a transition of the seasons. These longer, hot sunny days have gotten me outside planting a variety of colorful flowers in my back yard. Recently, I sat outside in my colorful backyard with a friend. We welcomed the summer solstice by drumming, a form of celebration and meditation.
When I decided to plant new flowers for my backyard, I went to the local nursery and also bought a special potting soil that would support their growth. I made sure to water them frequently, and trusted they had all they needed to create strong roots to continue growing and blossoming. This process is similar to the support we offer the newlyweds in our lives. When we gather at weddings, we’re offering our love and support, and trusting that they have all they need for this new relationship to grow and blossom.
I was also gifted with a beautiful hydrangea and orchid plant for my birthday this month. As I watch the new growth in the flowers around me, it becomes a metaphor for blossoming, risking and stepping more fully into my life, moving forward with commitment and acknowledgment of where I’ve been and what I’ve done, like those graduates I’ve honored. I realize we don’t have to graduate from high school or college to take time to acknowledge our own accomplishments, growth or the transitions we’re making.
This Father’s Day was my husband’s 32nd and my son-in-law’s 2nd. We honored the important part they have played in our families, and will continue to play in our lives. It gave us a moment’s pause to reflect on the progress of life. We can clearly remember when our adult children were infants. I gave my son-in-law a book, Dads and Daughters by Joe Kelly, in honor of his new role as a father of a daughter.
Joe Kelly is known as “The Dad Man”. He created the non-profit organization Dads and Daughters, he testified at the Senate hearings in favor of Title IX before girls had equal rights in the sports field and he co-founded the magazine New Moon, which is a magazine written by and for young girls. He has been active in the eating disorder field by supporting and educating professionals and men regarding the fact that men are a valuable natural resource, which is being underutilized in the recovery process.
The exciting news is that Joe moved from Michigan to California, and is now a convenient resource for us! Go to: www.meninfamlies.com to check out upcoming events in the Bay Area.
I will be co-leading a coaching workshop, for men only, with Joe on Saturday, September 29th from 9-3 pm. If you know of any men who would like to feel more confident in supporting the women in their lives recover from an eating disorder, please pass this link along.
It’s no surprise to me that Joe chose this year to move to California. Last February at our EDRS conference, Bridget Whitlow MFT, our new EDRS President, announced that her term as President would focus on advocacy and including men more fully into the recovery process. We are already planning the next conference scheduled for February 2013. These “long lazy summer days” will be interspersed with planning committees where we will be “tilling the soil, and planting the seeds,” as we create our next EDRS conference.
Will you contribute to our Love Warrior blog and let us know what is blooming in your life’s garden? What transitions are you manifesting?
It does take effort from you to create change, but once you start, trust life to step in and offer on-going support for your new growth.
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. She created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Michelle is finishing her book, Self-Love: The Only Diet That Works, and her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter and help spread the Self-Love Movement!