The prompt I created for the month of June is to be aware of nurturing father energy. I invited you to let it in this month and see what you notice.
I’ve noticed that I’ve chosen thoughts and behaviors that I normally wouldn’t without consciously having this intention as I began each day.
The “good father” or “King” archetypes are strong parts of my husband’s personality. He is a good provider, protector and loving husband and father. Some of the ways he shows his love is by paying all the bills, looking at the bank statements and generally taking care of the financial matters for our household. I tapped into this loving energy that morning by taking responsibility for my business banking account when I got something in the mail from my bank that I didn’t understand. Instead of asking him, I went to the bank and showed them the correspondence. Over an hour later, I closed an account, opened a new one, and understood what the letter was about. That same morning, I went to our insurance company and took care of some business there for our family.
Later in the week, I went for a trip with my middle daughter to the Flower Mart in San Francisco to look at flowers for her upcoming wedding. She drove and was using her GPS but it was not working. While she drove, I opened the GPS on my phone and noticed the written directions were not working for me either. I chose an alternative mode, which I never do. I used the map feature, which relies on a visual map with north, south, east and west orientations rather than the written directions with the words “right” or “left”. I opened my mind to be able to read the map, and through the technology of a blinking light, which represented where we were, I was able to get us to the Flower Mart!
I became aware of a sense of confidence in my navigating abilities, which was new to me. Later, I realized I had tapped into the masculine energy I had invited in this month!
Now I am consciously looking for and noticing loving father energy all around me.
My husband and I like to walk on the level street when we go for our walks, rather than using the sidewalks that have the up and downs of the driveways. When a car comes in our direction, I’ve noticed my husband instinctively moves to my right so that he is walking on the outside closest to the car.
This past Sunday, when our children were over for dinner, I noticed my son-in-law playing with our granddaughter. She is a petite one year old. I watched the special bond he has with her. He does not treat her as if she’s fragile. He throws her into the air and has a special way of rough housing with her that sends her into delightful laughter!
Fathering energy can come from other places, outside of our fathers or men. The Archetypal father or king reflects qualities that can apply to any sex or gender.
Here’s an excerpt from Dreamhawk.com, explaining the positive side of the King Archetype:
The king is an image through which we contact those immense resources of certainty, of being loved and loving, of being sure about what we should do in life, and of having powerful rights to social action and the world’s resources.
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. She created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Michelle is finishing her book, Self-Love: The Only Diet That Works, and her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter and help spread the Self-Love Movement!