I am one of the luckiest people on this planet.
I get to hear people speak lovingly to themselves.
This may not seem like a big deal until you realize that when I first met them and we began working together, these are the same people who believed they didn’t deserve to live, or that they were undeserving of love or that they were disgusting and deserved every bad thing that happened to them.
My work is my passion. I get to witness the transformation of peoples’ identities. I watch as their souls are healed. I hear their new stories and beliefs forming. I feel the energy in the room as they begin to believe that life can be a safe and happy place for them.
I’ve discovered that my purpose is to be a messenger of self-love.
This evening I was planning on going to the theatre to watch the documentary, Miss Representation. The movie is written, directed and produced by Jennifer Siebel Newsom. I could tell that this movie was written by a passionate woman. And yet, I decided against going tonight. A larger passion was calling me.
I was invited to dinner at my daughter’s house. I chose to go there. As I was sitting at the table watching my 9 month old granddaughter along with my husband, two of my daughters, my son-in-law and his parents, it occurred to me that there was no other place I wanted to be. It’s true that I believe in activism, and that the movie I had planned on watching was more than likely a message of self-love and empowerment, but I realized while sitting around the table that we don’t have to be movie makers or psychotherapists to be positive influences in the lives of others. Our impact comes from our daily decisions, like our choices to spend time with those we love, consciously sending them love.
I’m sure you have your own unique experiences that reflect your passions. It may be as simple as mine this evening, spending your time with those you love. Let’s remember that spending time with ourselves counts as well!
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. She created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Michelle is finishing her book, Self-Love: The Only Diet That Works, and her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter and help spread the Self-Love Movement!