I have recently been asked by a number of different people these questions: “How do I love myself? How can I raise my self-esteem? How can I be a strong, confident woman?
We all know about affirmations, positive thinking, visualizations, meditations and altruistic behaviors. These are all good ideas. We need to counteract all the media invitations to compare ourselves to the airbrushed models, as well as the women who seem to have it all together and are doing wonderful things in the world. How do we love ourselves if we consistently think we’re falling short?
What I have learned in my own quest for self-love is that it takes a daily practice.
I began in earnest in 2005 to notice and stop my self-critical, condemning self-talk. I also wrote out a Self-Love prayer that I read to myself everyday in the mirror while looking into my soul through my eyes.
I share it with you today in hopes that you will find it helpful to you. Perhaps you will take it as your own and read it daily to yourself, or it may be a jumping off place for you to create a writing that fits perfectly for you. The important thing is that you read a positive statement about yourself, to yourself daily. Perhaps even more important is the action of looking into your eyes while you read it to yourself, letting the message sink into your heart.
Will you let me know if it’s helpful to you? Will you share your Self-Love Letters/Prayers/ Manifestos with me on our Love Warrior blog? I know we have a community that benefits from reading the posts even if they don’t post themselves. By writing your self-love writing and submitting it, you’ll not only help yourself, but you may inspire someone you don’t even know to begin their journey to self-love! Begin your own practice today!
June 2005 Self-Love Prayer
Today I am a strong steady tree that is coming into a new season of growth and fruition. Self-Love is a journey I am beginning in a new comprehensive, conscious way. I’m peeling the proverbial onion to new depths as I come into contact with the loveable, gifted person I was created to be before hurtful life experiences stunted my growth.
Today is a new day; I commit this day to Self-Love. I commit this day to the power of the mother in me who loves me without reserve. I stand in strength together with Love Warriors of all ages for positive spiritual influence. Self-Love is the answer, and self-forgiveness is the path.
I forgive myself today for the part I had in my own demise. I can see the part of me that swallowed whole all of the negative comments, beliefs and messages I received. It stops today.
I forgive myself today for any mistakes that have caused harm to myself or others. I forgive myself today for any mistakes I may make in the future.
I have the understanding of humility, which teaches me that I am only human, and therefore perfection is no longer my path.
Humility helps me connect to the imperfection, and glory in everyone.
If I do not judge others, I offer others the opportunity to not judge me.
I understand that I have no control over what others think of me.
Today I commit to being the best me I can be, letting go of my past need of approval from others.
By nurturing nonjudgmental relationships, I create the climate for vulnerability.
Vulnerability offers the incredible healing power of emotional honesty.
Emotional Honesty allows others to see me, and invites them to accept me with all of my flaws and foibles.
The experience of another human being accepting me with my imperfections allows me to cultivate self-acceptance and Self-Love.
Today I begin this process by being willing to love myself unconditionally. I will not judge myself harshly.
I ask for divine assistance in remembering that “I AM ENOUGH; I HAVE ENOUGH, AND I DO ENOUGH.”
Please remind me to ask for guidance each day.
Help me to reach out to myself as you would have me reach out to others.
I understand that by reaching into myself and offering love, I am coming in closer contact with you.
Thank you for guiding me to take this time with you each morning. Help me to be a blessing to all I meet this day. Amen
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Also check out the Love Warrior Community main site to look through the LWC’s self-love tools.
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. She created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Michelle is finishing her book, Self-Love: The Only Diet That Works, and her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter and help spread the Self-Love Movement!