I don’t want to multi-task. That was going to be the title of my self-love post today, but I remembered one of the presentations at the EDRS 2012 Conference. One presentation used video case studies of therapy sessions to show a type of visualization that helped the client to focus on what they did want. If they weren’t living with an eating disorder, if they weren’t in X circumstance, what would they be doing? What would they want from life?
The presenters talked about getting your client to talk in affirmatives, instead of negatives.
I was doing my laundry and thinking about how nice it has been these past couple days living in the present moment when I’m usually multitasking and worrying about x, y and z. That’s when the title for my self-love post came to mind, I Don’t Want To Multi-task.
As I sat down to write it, I realized I was speaking in the negative. If I’m not multitasking, what does that mean? If I’m not multitasking, what does that open up for me?
I want to live in the present moment.
When I decoded what not multitasking meant it translated into being relaxed, enjoying what I’m doing in the moment, being calm, excited, being open to whatever emotions and feelings come my way, being open to listen to what my body needs and being open to listen to what I need.
I felt a big shift in my energy from being at the conference. I felt amazing. I was in tune with myself and the people around me.
It usually takes me a long time to go to sleep because there are X amount of things I want to be doing or because I have X amount of thoughts running through my mind, but after I came home Friday night from the conference, I was tired. I listened to my body and instead of watching an episode of Once Upon A Time on my laptop, I went to sleep.
The following night when I got home from the conference I listened to my body again and went to sleep when I was tired. I did this again last night and it was easy. It was easy because I was listening to what my body was telling me and I wasn’t fighting it.
I’m like my 8 month old niece, Ninel. I fight sleep, but fighting sleep takes me away from being in the present when I’m awake. I’m more likely to be tired, less focused, more irritable.
Attending the conference helped me infuse my knowledge and my energy together. I understand concepts like listen to your body, but I like being highly productive and my mind tells me that in order to be highly productive I have to constantly be doing, and that’s not true. I know that’s not true.
I know that if I live a balanced life, I will be able to act, listen, think and feel from a more grounded place, which will inevitably lead to me feeling happier and will lead to enjoyable and high productivity, to healthy productivity.
I know this and I sometimes do this, but my mind often fights it. My mind operates on a different wavelength than my body, my emotions and my energy.
The collaborative, wise, healing and powerful energy from the women of the conference helped shift my energy. It helped intertwine my body and my mind.
For me everything is based in energy and the energy I try to keep my self aligned with is love. That was the energy at the EDRS conference.
When I’m in tune with love, everything else balances itself out.
Going to sleep when I’m tired, drinking water when I’m thirsty, visiting my friend this morning and returning to their house tonight for dinner because I felt my emotions pulling on my heart, telling me that I missed them — this is listening to my energy.
When I listen to self-love and act on it, it makes everything easier. It makes life simple. I’m tired, then go to sleep. Why fight it? I miss my friends, then visit them. I need to feel fresh air against my face, then go outside. I need movement, then go for a walk or stretch. I’m reflecting about self-love, then sit down and write about it.
When I open myself up to be more perceptive to what I need, it makes acting on what I need easier. It takes away my desire to fight against it because when I understand why I need something, then I don’t want to fight it anymore.
I want to live in the present moment. Then I’ll do it.
Emelina Minero writes for Curve Magazine and EDGE Media Network. She’s working on launching her own progressive LGBTQ publication. She’s a Connection Connoisseur, Networking Maven and Self-Love Enthusiast. She founded Community Bucket List and co-founded the Love Warrior Community. Find her on Twitter, @CommKr8veWriter.
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