If the shoe fits…

Self-love 1.9.2012

If the shoe fits…

My name is Ja’el Daniely and I have a shopping problem.

Hi Ja’el Welcome to Shopper’s Anonymous!

I will graduate this May in debt, try to get into grad school with more debt and then live in Spain to pay off my debt! So of course it is very hard for me to walk into a mall and not purchase one thing, I have to come back with like 6!

Now I know many of you can agree that it is so hard to find a good pair of shoes when you’re looking for them RIGHT!? Right. And most of you always spend money, when you’re trying to save it, only buying things that are really necessary…like the last pair of Steve Madden heels in your size! So you talk yourself and your wallet into letting you splurge a little because you really NEED these shoes. You buy them, feel really bad later, and then start complaining about how you should have saved your money because you really need to pay your car insurance or textbooks or gas money for the week.

However, as soon as you put on those brand new shoes, and they fit perfectly! You try them on with everything, and then praise yourself because you made a good decision with buying a really nice pair of shoes, that you still NEED.

So today when I stepped up to the Macy’s register, I didn’t guilt myself into buying a nice pair of shoes or a new shirt. I enjoyed reaching into my purse to pull the blue plastic Wachovia card and I enjoyed watching the associate ask me if I wanted to sign up for a Macy’s credit card. I really felt good about my purchases today and yes I could have spent the money on something else but I work really hard and I think it’s always nice to treat yourself ONCE in a while.

And if the shoe fits? WEAR it! Don’t dwell on decisions that you have already made up in your mind. We have to live with the results of our decisions everyday so why do we always dwell on the one’s that appear to make us the happiest? So what you bought a new pair of shoes or a dress or a car, there is always going to be that one person or even yourself that says, “You could have saved that money for something else.”

But I didn’t and now what? I am happy with the decision I made because money doesn’t control my happiness. I choose to be happy and look good while I’m doing it. So the next time someone tries to guilt you into doubting a decision you’ve already made or you doubt yourself to play it safe, take a step back and think is this what I really want? And if so, go for it! Live with no regrets or hesitations!


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About jaelisawesome

I am currently a senior at Randolph College, founded as Randolph-Macon Woman's College in 1891, majoring in Political Science: International Relations with minors in Spanish and Studio Art. Born and raised in Richmond, Virginia I believe that I have significant contributions to make to the world of diplomacy and US foreign policy. As Student Government President I am the liaison between the students and the faculty and administration, as well as the student representative to the Board of Trustees. I also serve as the Co-President of an all female a cappella group Songshine. I am known for being involved in any and every aspect at school. Some of my passions include playing on the volleyball and tennis teams, singing in almost every group at my school, performing in my very first musical Spring Awakening in the theatre department to taking orders as a barista at the schools’ coffee shop Main Grounds. After I graduate in May 2012, I aspire to attend the Master of Arts in Political Science with a concentration in European Union Policy Studies one-year, 33-credit graduate program. The intensive, residential program is based wholly in Florence, Italy and results in an MA degree in Political Science from James Madison University. My goal is to spread the Love Warrior Community, meaning more people actively bringing self-love into their lives and into the lives of others, more people accepting and loving themselves as they are and more people empowered to follow their passions and share them with the world. The Love Warrior Community is as strong as those involved. By joining the Love Warrior Community, I have the opportunity to create my own self-love practice, bringing more love into my life and the lives of those around me. I will be able to influence a greater number of people and help them to see their value and worth beyond their bodies.
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