Everything Has Energy
A few days ago I decided to cleanse my energy by evaluating the material possessions that surround me on a daily basis, the energy that’s attached to them & how it’s effecting me.
I have a relatively small room & there’s a good amount of stuff in it. There’s also stuff under my bed & stuff in the attic, still in boxes or bags, from when I moved my belongings from college back to home. That was 1 year & 7 months ago that I graduated, and some of that stuff is still packed up & a lot of it was still packed up, until a couple of days ago. Do I really need that stuff if I haven’t touched it or looked at it in a year & 7 months?
And what about the stuff that’s out & in the open in my room? My clothes, do I wear all of my clothes? My books, do I need all of them. My papers, when was the last time I looked through those? What do I use them for? Do I need them? Do they have a purpose to the way that I live my life or to the way that I want to live my life?
Everything has energy, even if it’s just a value that I attribute to it. If I give something an energy value, that’s my energy that I’m giving. It’s my energy that’s interacting with it. It’s my energy that’s being effected.
Some of My Possessions I Looked Through and Their Energy Impact
I am a fan of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, a TV show that stemmed from a movie. I was a fanatic. On my 16th birthday, I went to a Buffy Convention with my mom. We took pictures with the actors who played Giles, Xander, Spike, Wesley, the Nerd Trio, Kennedy, Clem, Adam, various demons & other characters. We got their autographs. We watched some of them do improv. It was AMAZING! It was amazing to see the diverse range of people attending and realizing that we were all connected by our love for Buffy, and it was amazing to see the people who brought this world to life.
I have watched the whole TV series many times, with each of my siblings, with my parents, with my friends, by myself. I had some of the cards, got the magazine & read some of the comics. I was a fan of the books and the fan-fiction after the series ended. I had a ton of posters on my wall in my first year of college.
Buffy was creative, it defied television norms, it broke boundaries artistically. As a piece of artwork, Buffy is beautiful. Emotionally and in my memory vault, it was also something I shared with all of my family & friends. It was something that a lot of my friends and I bonded over. Deeper emotionally, it was the first piece of media that I saw that had a lesbian character and that portrayed her as normal. I was in the 8th grade when I started watching Buffy. I knew I was a lesbian when I was 5, and I didn’t come out until I was 18/19. Buffy was a safe place for me that showed me other people like me, a storyline that I could relate to that I didn’t see anywhere else.
So, when I was going through my things a couple days ago, I came across my stack of Buffy magazines, comics & cards. Since I graduated I have gone through “getting rid of stuff” periods, but I have never been able to let go of my Buffy stuff. I don’t look at the comics, magazines or cards. They just sit on a shelf, but I haven’t been able to let go of them because of the emotional energy attached to them.
Finally, a couple days ago I posted on Facebook if anybody wanted Buffy magazines, comics & cards & that I’d mail them out for just the shipping & handling. A friend from school replied that her cousin was interested. I got in touch with her cousin and she wants to be a Buffy scholar. She recently submitted a paper relating to Buffy to a journal. She’s very into studying and getting her hands on anything Buffy. Her passion for Buffy reminds me of the passion that I had for Buffy at its peak. Today I shipped off the magazines, comics & cards to her. I felt good about it. I didn’t feel sad letting go of them. I was able to part with those things happily because I knew someone who would really appreciate them would be getting them.
Now that energy attached to those items is no longer in my room. It was both good & bad energy. They reminded me of when I was closeted, but also when I was out, and not even relating to my sexual orientation, they reminded me of all of the fun times and bonds I made via Buffy. But all of that is in the past, those items reminded me of high school & college. Although I had great and not so great times during high school & college, I don’t want to be living in the past, even if it was good. I want to be living in the present moment, and letting go of things like that helps me clear my energy & helps me to be more in the present.
I was also able to give away a lot of social media, internet marketing & writing books in the same fashion, and those books were attached to the first post-grad months of my life. I learned a lot from them; I enjoyed them; they were very useful & I couldn’t just donate them or give them to anyone. I needed to know that they would go to someone who could benefit from them as much as I did. And I sent those off today, as well. 🙂
Getting rid of my things in an emotionally & energetically cleansing way feels so good. 🙂
What Role Do My Possessions Play in My Life?
I was looking through my things again yesterday. I’m a writer & entrepreneur, and I hold onto stacks of paper, either filled with my writing or my ideas for new creations & projects. Some of these papers I’ve had for weeks, months, a year, or a hell of a lot of years. 🙂 At some point, they just become lost ideas that I’ll never take action on. Either because my passions and interests have changed or because there’s something that I’m more passionate about that I’m giving my time to.
Holding onto those papers fills me with false longing and disatisfaction. That stack of papers becomes more than just paper, it becomes a list of things that I’ll never do, a list of things that I once desired, a list of things holding me back & bringing me into my past, away from the present.
What about my clothes? Some of my clothes are too big & some are too small. I won’t wear them. If they’re too big, they don’t fit me right. I want how I dress to reflect how I feel, so my clothes should fit me. If it’s too small, I’ll long after a shirt that used to be my favorite and get sad that I can no longer wear it. Holding on to either form of clothes that don’t fit me keeps me away from living in the present moment. And holding onto clothes that are too small leads to insecurities and brings me into that society mentality that I need to have my body a certain way. “If I keep that shirt, then maybe in a month I’ll be able to wear it.” A couple of days ago, I also went through my clothes and got rid of everything that I don’t wear, and everything that doesn’t fit me.
There’s this air of confidence that I get when I wear things that fit me, when I wear clothes that I’m comfortable in. Why should I surround myself with anything else?
I want to surround myself with things that have a purpose, with things that I will use, with things that bring me joy. I want to surround myself with joy and I want to let go of things that will take me away from the present moment and my passions.
Having more won’t fill me with more joy. Having what I need, and what I use & take action on, that will help fill me with purpose. Everything else just becomes a distraction.
What purpose do your possessions play in your life? What energy do they carry and how do they effect you?
Emelina Minero writes for Curve Magazine and EDGE Media Network. She’s working on launching her own progressive LGBTQ publication. She’s a Connection Connoisseur, Networking Maven and Self-Love Enthusiast. She founded Community Bucket List and co-founded the Love Warrior Community. Find her on Twitter, @CommKr8veWriter.
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