Some Help

Self-love 1.6.2012

Self-love 1.6.2012

So, my body doesn’t actually look like this. It’s a bit darker and wider in a few places but I love it just the same. My heart is in my body, figuratively and literally speaking, so I have pride in who I am and what I have to work with. I am 5’10 but I’m not a model, I am gorgeous but you don’t see my face on every Cover Girl ad, I’m just me. I love every curve, stretch mark, freckle, dimple, cellulite and every other imperfect thing about my body.

A lot of people say that I am vain because I do find myself smart, attractive and fun to be around, but I just happen to be very confident. That doesn’t mean I don’t have my moments of doubt about longing to be smaller, shorter or less developed. But I have the same thought that most of you are having this instant. I can see you looking at yourself in the mirror, paying attention to every flaw instead of noticing the beauty inside.

Take another look in the same mirror, and tell yourself:

“You is kind. You is smart. And you is important.”

Instead of looking at the small things you dislike, take a second look at the bigger picture and think about what you really love about your whole self instead of look at that stretch mark. Think about your whole self and that beauty that’s inside and out.


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About jaelisawesome

I am currently a senior at Randolph College, founded as Randolph-Macon Woman's College in 1891, majoring in Political Science: International Relations with minors in Spanish and Studio Art. Born and raised in Richmond, Virginia I believe that I have significant contributions to make to the world of diplomacy and US foreign policy. As Student Government President I am the liaison between the students and the faculty and administration, as well as the student representative to the Board of Trustees. I also serve as the Co-President of an all female a cappella group Songshine. I am known for being involved in any and every aspect at school. Some of my passions include playing on the volleyball and tennis teams, singing in almost every group at my school, performing in my very first musical Spring Awakening in the theatre department to taking orders as a barista at the schools’ coffee shop Main Grounds. After I graduate in May 2012, I aspire to attend the Master of Arts in Political Science with a concentration in European Union Policy Studies one-year, 33-credit graduate program. The intensive, residential program is based wholly in Florence, Italy and results in an MA degree in Political Science from James Madison University. My goal is to spread the Love Warrior Community, meaning more people actively bringing self-love into their lives and into the lives of others, more people accepting and loving themselves as they are and more people empowered to follow their passions and share them with the world. The Love Warrior Community is as strong as those involved. By joining the Love Warrior Community, I have the opportunity to create my own self-love practice, bringing more love into my life and the lives of those around me. I will be able to influence a greater number of people and help them to see their value and worth beyond their bodies.
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2 Responses to Some Help

  1. “You is kind. You is smart. And you is important.” – From The Help, I just saw that movie! I loved it!

    I most definitely do not fit the standard of beauty either. Whose standard is it anyway? Society’s standard? Media’s standard? Hollywood’s standard? The fashion industry’s standard? I’m not sure who created the “standard idea of beauty”, but I know I’m not it.

    I’m more androgynous than a feminine beauty. I have a protruding belly and big hips. I have a wide muscular frame & a lot more muscle mass than your “average” female.

    Sometimes I look at these features and become insecure about my body. Other times I look at these features and think they are beautiful. Most every morning, right when I wake up, I look in my mirror above my desk and I smile at myself, and I look into my eyes and I tell myself that I’m beautiful, and I believe it.

    Occasionally I think thoughts like, “My face is getting fatter” or “These pants are getting tighter”, but most of the time when I look into the mirror I think, “You have such beautiful eyes”, “I love your smile”, “You have such a strong frame. I love how your upper body is built”, “I find your wide, strong legs sexy”, “What nice calves you have” and “I am beautiful, not just physically, but me, my essence, who I am as a person — me. I am beautiful.”

    When I look into my eyes and smile, I’m not seeing my physical body, I’m seeing my character, my energy, my inner beauty — and it’s gorgeous.

    I am not the standard of American beauty either, but I am beautiful. 🙂 And it’s nice when I tell myself & let myself know that.

  2. Beautiful by Christina Aguilera is the song I sing everday if i ever start to feel insecure or if anyone tries to teaase me in anyway! So you are correct! It is so nice to tell yourself that and believe it!

    Don’t look at me

    Every day is so wonderful
    And suddenly it’s hard to breathe
    Now and then I get insecure
    From all the pain, feel so ashamed

    I am beautiful no matter what they say
    Words can’t bring me down
    I am beautiful in every single way
    Yes, words can’t bring me down, oh no
    So don’t you bring me down today

    To all your friends you’re delirious
    So consumed in all your doom
    Tryin’ hard to fill the emptiness, the piece is gone
    Left the puzzle undone, ain’t that the way it is?

    ‘Cause you are beautiful no matter what they say
    Words can’t bring you down, oh no
    You are beautiful in every single way
    Yes, words can’t bring you down, oh no
    [ From: http://www.elyrics.net/read/c/christina-aguilera-lyrics/beautiful-lyrics.html ]
    So don’t you bring me down today

    No matter what we do
    No matter what we do
    (No matter what we say)
    No matter what we say
    (We’re the song that’s outta tune)
    (Full of beautiful mistakes)

    (And everywhere we go)
    And everywhere we go
    (The sun will always shine)
    The sun will always, always shine!
    (But tomorrow we might awake on the other side)

    ‘Cause we are beautiful no matter what they say
    Yes, words won’t bring us down, oh no
    We are beautiful in every single way
    Yes, words can’t bring us down, oh no
    So don’t you bring me down today

    Don’t you bring me down today
    Don’t you bring me down today

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