Have you ever over analyzed your life to where everything has to be perfect for a lifetime? Everything has to fall in line with your plan and no other factors can fall into play. At this very moment is when I over analyze too much, and get stressed out.
I am graduating May 13, 2012 from Randolph College, founded as Randolph-Macon Woman’s College in 1891, with a degree in Political Science: International Relations with minors in Spanish and Studio Art. I believe that I have significant contributions to make to the world of diplomacy and US foreign policy, which is part of the reason why I ran for Student Government President, and I won. While in the position of Student Government President, I’m also the Co-President of an all-female a cappella group called Songshine, a member of the Model United Nations delegation team, a member of two sports teams, a member of lots of extracurricular activities and I work at a coffee shop.
I am known for being involved in any and every aspect at school, but sometimes I think I over do some things. I know what I want to do after graduation, attend the Master of Arts in Political Science with a concentration in European Union Policy Studies one-year, 33-credit graduate program in Florence, Italy, which results in an MA degree in Political Science from James Madison University. But trying to do all of the application requirements, keeping up with my school work, maintaining my responsibilities as a leader in my school and trying to keep a social life is a wee bit difficult for me.
Sometimes I start to doubt myself, my abilities and why I even decided to take a leadership position in so many organizations, but that’s who I am. I am someone who does things for other people. I like to make things happen and get things done. I start to over analyze things when I think I can’t get something done or I feel that I have taken on too much. When I over analyze and doubt myself, I begin to feel like such a failure.
But I’m not. I have accomplished so much in my life, which is why I hold the leadership positions now. Everyone else seems to know my potential and they are positive that I will achieve my goals, but I have so many feelings of doubt.
I’ve been reading from Cody McKibben’s blog site Thrilling Heroics and he talks a lot about settings goals instead of making plans with the things you want to do in life.
“Just having made the plan in the first place makes you about sixty percent more likely to follow through on the action than if you hadn’t made plans and set a time in your head in the first place”
I’ve created this plan to do x, y, and z in such and such time with no room for change, disappointment or relief. I over analyzed my plan, which makes my life more stressful, like I’m running out of time because I can’t carry the world on my shoulders anymore.
My newfound knowledge thanks to Cody McKibben: How to Set Personal and Professional Goals
“We’ve already seen how powerful it can be when you set goals for yourself. You won’t succeed at every goal, but review your personal development progress at the end of each year to see how much you do accomplish! Simply setting the goals for yourself will greatly increase the likelihood that you’ll get much closer to your dream lifestyle in all these areas of your life.”
I would love to live overseas as an Ambassador, get paid to travel as my dream lifestyle and marry the man of my dreams, but my doubtfulness and strict plans will not help me get there any faster than I planned on it! I can start with a simple goal and not psych myself out of great opportunities. Stress is not meant to hinder your performance level in any way. I think I am still learning how I personally deal with stress. But it’s a work in progress. Rome was not built in a day and neither is my future. So to finally rid myself of these awful plans, here are my first 5 goals.
Goal #1: Graduate College
Goal #2: Finish filling out applications to JMU, internship/oversea job opportunities
Goal #3: Get accepted to the JMU grad program
Goal #4: Get a job offer overseas teaching English
Goal #5 Breathe and remember that I can always make more goals
Can you think of a time when you were so stressed out about your future that you thought your plan was off track or thought that you wouldn’t follow through at all? How did it make you feel? How did you learn to manage your stress? Instead of making plans, set 5 goals for yourself and tell me about them! I would love to hear about your future endeavors and how your goals will help you achieve them!