My Body is perfect for me.

Self-love 12.22.2011

“I rejoice in my sexuality and in my own body. My body is perfect for me in this lifetime. I embrace myself with love and compassion.”

Were you ever one of those girls who thought that you just weren’t good enough? Society always told you to aspire to be like some model or celebrity and told you that what you had to offer wasn’t good enough! Well I was one of those girls. 5’9, long hair, skinny legs and not a clue what I had to offer. My parents instilled in me values of respect and honor in others, and myself, but that apparently wasn’t enough. As an African-American female I was always asked if I was going to play basketball, be a model or do something where I would use my height to my advantage. So of course I assumed that all I had going for me was that I was tall. If you asked anyone to describe me when I was younger, all they would say was, ‘she is so tall.’

I hated being tall. It was awful! I was called names, like the jolly green giant, green bean, big foot — the list goes on. All of my friends were so much shorter than I. I developed a crick in my neck. I always had tense shoulders because I would bend down to their level to appear not as tall as I looked! But you cannot hide 5’9! Really you can’t. Oh and by the way, I never played basketball. Volleyball, track, soccer and tennis were more of my thing! J  But just when you think it can’t get any worse, it did. Nothing that I did, said or watched made me accept my long lanky tall body. Why? Puberty.

Now, I look in the mirror and see the different contours of my body, from my head to my naval, ending at my feet. All different in shape, size and color, but all of these things make up me. I have long legs, arms and torso. I might not be as skinny as the model from Victoria Secret or as pretty as the one on the runway during Fashion Week in Paris. But the difference here is that my body is mine. You can tell me that you don’t like it or approve, but at the end of the day nobody asked you YOUR opinion about MY body. You see that’s just it — it’s mine.

Magnet from the home of my lovely sister Nayo Carter

“I rejoice in my sexuality and in my own body. My body is perfect for me in this lifetime. I embrace myself with love and compassion.”


About jaelisawesome

I am currently a senior at Randolph College, founded as Randolph-Macon Woman's College in 1891, majoring in Political Science: International Relations with minors in Spanish and Studio Art. Born and raised in Richmond, Virginia I believe that I have significant contributions to make to the world of diplomacy and US foreign policy. As Student Government President I am the liaison between the students and the faculty and administration, as well as the student representative to the Board of Trustees. I also serve as the Co-President of an all female a cappella group Songshine. I am known for being involved in any and every aspect at school. Some of my passions include playing on the volleyball and tennis teams, singing in almost every group at my school, performing in my very first musical Spring Awakening in the theatre department to taking orders as a barista at the schools’ coffee shop Main Grounds. After I graduate in May 2012, I aspire to attend the Master of Arts in Political Science with a concentration in European Union Policy Studies one-year, 33-credit graduate program. The intensive, residential program is based wholly in Florence, Italy and results in an MA degree in Political Science from James Madison University. My goal is to spread the Love Warrior Community, meaning more people actively bringing self-love into their lives and into the lives of others, more people accepting and loving themselves as they are and more people empowered to follow their passions and share them with the world. The Love Warrior Community is as strong as those involved. By joining the Love Warrior Community, I have the opportunity to create my own self-love practice, bringing more love into my life and the lives of those around me. I will be able to influence a greater number of people and help them to see their value and worth beyond their bodies.
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2 Responses to My Body is perfect for me.

  1. Cody K. says:

    Good for you. As long as you’re happy with who you are, others’ opinion shouldn’t matter in the slightest.

  2. Lindsey says:

    Beautiful, Jael. Good luck with your aspirations, and may all your dreams come true!

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