Body Language

Self-Love: 11/10/11

SoulCollage by Michelle Minero

My body has its own language. It has different dialects. I’ve become adept to its body language. I can tell when I’m hungry, and I know the difference between satisfaction and fullness. I no longer confuse thirst for hunger.

These may seem like simple things, but for years it was as if the connection between me and my body was broken. I could go for hours without eating, and then all of a sudden become aware that I was starving. I’d overeat till I was in pain. I used to confuse thirst for a craving for ice cream.

Here are some ways my body talks to me that I missed for years. A headache tells me it has been too long between meals. Difficulty concentrating or irritability is another way my body also tells me I’m hungry. It also gives me jittery feelings, and I can feel the discomfort of my empty stomach.

When I’m eating, I can still put more food on my plate than is comfortable eating. I’m glad my body lets me know when I’m satisfied with a calm, comfy feeling in my stomach. My mind helps by letting me know that it’s time to stop, or I’ll feel uncomfortably full.

I’m in the process of learning my body’s energetic language. This new language is my body’s way of telling me when I need to slow down. It’s finally getting through to my mind, which can get so involved with getting “just the right words” down on paper, or lose time in creative activities.

When I listen to my body it tells me when I’m feeling “off”. I may notice a slump in energy, or dryness in my throat that isn’t quite sore, but feels different. I may find my mind going “blank” and I know it’s time to stop working.

I have a women’s circle that I love going to. It’s scheduled the first Wednesday of the month from 7:00 pm to 9:45 pm. When I listen to my body it tells me to go to bed between 8:30 and 9:00 pm. This group is challenging for me energetically, but it fills me up in so many other ways.

This past Wednesday, I went to work and noticed I was feeling a little queasy. Was it hunger? I had lunch, and felt a little better. I listened more closely to my body and it told me that there was tension in my forehead, not quite a headache, but a precursor to one. I noticed I was thirstier than usual. I drank more water, but after my last client, I knew my body was not feeling “right”. I canceled my women’s group and went home. I listened to my body, which said I needed to go to bed at 6:30 pm. My mind said it was too early, but I decided to take a nap. I woke up at 6:35 am the next morning!

By listening to my body instead of my mind, I was able to prevent a sickness! I went to work the next day after 12 hours of sleep and had no nausea, no headache. I can tell my energy is still a little low, so I didn’t ride my bike this morning even though the sun was shining and my mind told me I should get on my bike before the rains come.

I’m learning this new energetic language of my body.

How does your body talk to you? We’d love to hear about it. To contribute to the Self-Love Warrior group blog email Include the title of your writing in the body of the email, and feel free to attach a photo to the email.



Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. She created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Michelle is finishing her book, Self-Love: The Only Diet That Works, and her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter and help spread the Self-Love Movement!

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2 Responses to Body Language

  1. So I was recently in this amazing production Spring Awakening at Randolph College, which is a rock musical adaptation of the controversial 1892 German play of the same title by Frank Wedekind. It features music by Duncan Sheik and lyrics by Steven Sater. This play is set in late 19th century Germany, where it concerns teenagers who are discovering the inner and outer turmoil of sexuality. The music of this play really set deep within my soul especially “Mirror-blue Night” (lyrics below).This song is sung by the male lead Melchior who is caught in the crossfire of childhood and adulthood.

    The Mirror-blue Night Lyrics

    Flip on a switch and everything’s fine
    No more lips, no more tongue, no more ears, no more eyes
    The naked blue angel, who peers though the blinds
    Disappears in the gloom of the mirror-blue night

    But there’s nowhere to hide from these bones from my mind
    It’s broken inside; I’m a man and a child
    I’m at home with a ghost who got left in the cold
    Who knocks at my peace with no keys to my soul

    And the whispers of fear, the chill up the spine
    Will steal away too with a flick of the light
    The minute you do it with fingers so blind
    You remove every bit of the blue from your mind

    But there’s nowhere to hide from the ghost in my mind
    It’s cold in these bones of a man and a child
    And there’s no one who knows and there’s nowhere to go
    There’s no one to see who can see to my soul

    This song takes me back to when I was young and naïve. I would flip on a switch and everything seemed to be fine. Lips, tongue, ears, eyes, everything appeared to be there but there was a sense of brokenness. My body language wasn’t communicating very well together. By listening to my mind instead of my body I found defects. I was too tall, big ears, wide nose, huge and round brown eyes. Meanwhile my body was screaming EMBRACE ME.

    Obviously I was in my teens still trying to figure out how this thing we call life works and my place in it, but this disconnect between my body and mind troubled me. I could feel my hunger pains but my mind screamed headaches don’t eat just sleep. I noticed my posture changing and shoulders lowered but I called it slouching. Excuse after excuse just to excuse my differences.
    Now my body and my mind found a new friend called my heart. All three act and react together in a sense of harmony. A headache tells me I am either stressed, hungry or nervous, and I can feel the discomfort of my empty stomach. So what do I do? I eat.

    When I eat I can monitor the quality of my food which soothes my mind. I can also savor the flavor and the nutritional value which eases my body. And I know when enough is enough which brings joy to my heart.

    My body has its own language too and I am the only one who will understand it! I have adapted to the changes we women go through and learned that there is a grand difference between satisfaction and fullness.


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