Self–Love – 7/9/11
There’s a song that has the lyrics, “It feels like the first time, it feels like the very first time…”
My very first grandchild, Ninel Melia was born May 22nd of this year. She is already teaching me so much.
Last night my husband and I treated our youngest daughter and our oldest daughter, with her husband and new little girl, out to a restaurant for dinner.
We went to Zocalos last night, and let the waitress know that our baby was only 6 weeks old. We asked if there was a place we could sit away from the crowd. She gave us a table in a section of the restaurant all to ourselves!
The knowledge that this was Ninel’s very first restaurant experience with her family was forefront in my mind. The joy of this event filled my heart, and warmed my soul! Both I and my daughter recorded the event with multiple photos, cameras ready for Ninel’s “first” restaurant experience.
She wore her “I love grandma Minero” onesie, and of course I held her for the majority of the evening, standing up and dancing with her in our secluded area to Juanes, Nelly Furtado, and other music in Spanish when she began to get squirmy. She was so well behaved on her first outing!
On my journey of Self-Love one of my intentions is to stay in the present moment, and experience the power of NOW. I can have all sorts of stories running in my mind about what could, should, or might happen, or what that person meant when they said so and so…
The lesson learned from Ninel is to be present and grounded in each moment. I treated myself to the joyful experience of observing Ninel seeing each moment for the very first time.
I watched Ninel’s eyes as she scanned the restaurant intently, looking at the light streaming in from the window. Each moment seemed to catch her total attention. Looking into her eyes, and she looking into mine created an intimate time where everything else faded into the background. For those moments of eye contact, the music, the food, the rest of my family was gone. I was with Ninel in that moment, as if for the first time.
I will go away with my husband this weekend for a “get away” and do my best to experience him for the first time (even though we’ve been married for almost 34 years!)
How will you bring the wonderment of life back into your moments? I’d love to hear from you. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org to share your story with the Love Warrior Community.
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. She created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Michelle is finishing her book, Self-Love: The Only Diet That Works, and her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter and help spread the Self-Love Movement!