My Cracked Windshield

Self-Love: 6/28/11

While I was driving to the airport I heard a loud sound, like a rock had hit my windshield, luckily I didn’t see anything.

The next day I noticed a small crack, about 5 inches long in the center of my windshield. As the days passed the crack became longer, and then curved into the line of my vision. My insurance company helped me schedule an appointment to have my windshield replaced.

The worker came to my house yesterday with the new windshield and his bag of specific tools to make the change. In a little over an hour he had completely changed out my windshield! What a treat to look out the windshield and have my full, clear vision returned.

This experience reminds me of the times when I don’t see things clearly because of my faulty “cracked” thoughts, beliefs, expectations, or assumptions. There are times when I experience my emotions as if I have been hit by a rock, ouch! My emotions, old beliefs or faulty thoughts can contribute to my inability to see things clearly, or to have harmonious relationships.

I also need special tools to revamp my inner windshield. Some of the tools I use are:

  • Be aware of my thoughts, and notice the emotions that flow from them.
  • Notice without judgment how my thoughts and emotions are affecting me.
  • Decide what I want my outcome to be.
  • Decide if my current thoughts and emotions are leading me in the direction I want.
  • Allow myself to see things from different perspectives.
  • Change my thoughts/emotions/ behaviors to get my desired results.

Or: If there is nothing I can do to change my situation, pray for peace of mind, and acceptance.

It’s easy to tell when I need my inner windshield replaced, because if it’s cracked, the crack will continue to get bigger and bigger, interfering with my vision. Luckily, I have the ability to use my “special tools” and it takes a lot less than an hour to clear my vision once I’m aware it needs replacing!

Do you have a story of a time your vision was affected by your “cracked inner windshield?”

I’d love to hear the tools you used to get your clarity back. You can send them to

You can also check out the Love Warrior Community for self-love tools.



Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. She created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Michelle is finishing her book, Self-Love: The Only Diet That Works, and her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter and help spread the Self-Love Movement!

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1 Response to My Cracked Windshield

  1. lindsey wert says:

    I love this metaphor Michelle–thank you so much–I needed this. You inspire me.:)

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