I Decided To Take Action

Self-Love: My Ultimate Bucket List Goal


Everything I do, I do to meet one end: Happiness. Happiness is my ultimate bucket list goal. Everything I do, I do to be happy.

At least that’s the plan. Everything I do doesn’t always lead to happiness. The choices I make, the thoughts I think – all of these don’t lead to happiness.

I have realized that two things make me extraordinarily happy:

  1. Having a lot of energy. Being high energy makes me happy. Being tired makes me unhappy. When I wake up with natural energy and am alert, or after I have a lot of caffeine and feel the energy flowing through me, I feel unstoppable. I can’t help but smile and feel happy.
  2. Focused high productivity. When I am super productive, and focused, achieving my goals, and getting things done – a.k.a moving forward, I am happy. It gives me a sense of accomplishment, purpose, and it gives me more energy.

Now that I think about it, there’s a third thing that makes me uber happy: being in the present.

If I were to create a chart, with Happiness as my end goal, then “Being in the Present” would fall directly under happiness because if I’m living in the present, I’m not worrying about anything, my mind is clear, I’m focused on the moment, and I’m enjoying myself and my surroundings. Then “High Energy” and “Focused High Productivity” would fall under “Being in the Present” because I’m often in the present when I have high energy and have high actionable focus.

Other things that would help me achieve these 3 states:

  • Setting and achieving small to large goals.
  • Having stable income
  • Having a clutter free space and mind
  • Being physically active and healthy
  • Having a balanced social life

These above things will help de-clutter my mind, will give me energy, and will build that energy by creating a consistent rising momentum.

Streaming Books: Information Overload

I’ve been reading bits and pieces of books, The 80/20 Principle, which states “that 80 percent of our success stems from a mere 20 percent of our efforts.” I’ve been reading some of Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity. I come back to The 4 Hour Work Week. I read blog posts from the lifestyle designers that I follow about minimalism, focus, and productivity. One thing I’ve realized is that I need to stop reading so much, or only focus my attention to one book at a time, and the one that I think will benefit me the most. Which right now is The 80/20 Principle. These ideas and concepts are good, and I’m glad I have been reading a lot of different resources, but it’s time I stop thinking of all of these great concepts and start putting them into action.

One thing that I have gotten from all of my readings is this: Find my focus. Find my main goal. What is the purpose of everything that I’m doing? What am I trying to achieve? Once I know what I want, and have it outlined of how I can best achieve that, it will make it easier for me to see everything that I do that helps me achieve this goal, and everything that I do that doesn’t help me reach my goal. I can then cut out what doesn’t bring me happiness, and add more of what does. Tracking and taking notes of my actions and thoughts, will help me test and control them to get better results towards my goal of happiness.

An Unhappy Start to my Day

I woke up this morning very tired, probably because I got 3 hours of sleep the night before, and that impact usually takes effect 2 days later, which is today. I woke up, not wanting to consume a spark (a semi healthy energy powder drink), and when I was looking at what to eat for breakfast, I saw the last piece of cheesecake, which is high in sugar and can lead to a lovely crash in energy later. I ate that. Then, I began to read a bit, and then fell asleep again.

I woke up groggy when I heard my dad come home early, and got up to say hi and hang out. It was about 1:20pm.

My dad was in a great mood and I felt his high energy, ironically he was talking about taking a nap. He may have been tired, but he was giving off such positive energy.

I asked him if I could borrow his car to go to the gym while he napped, and then realized that I didn’t want him to wake up to a dirty kitchen and messy living room after his nap because he’d probably clean it, when he should be relaxing with the rest of his day off. So I began to clean the kitchen, and made myself a spark (the energy drink), had some lunch, and then began to write this.

Inactivity and Feeling like I “have to” Do Something When I Don’t

I had been inactive all day, and it didn’t feel good at all. The only cure was to start taking action towards the goals I had planned or were forming for my day. I’ve been wanting to write something like this, a plan orientated around my main focus in life, and now I did. I had been putting it off. I thought it had to be elaborate, which it didn’t. I thought it would take me forever to do, which it didn’t. If I want, I can expand on it later, turn it into a poster, but now – just writing it out as a list, and as a mini-chart on a paper plate work fine for me. And I feel better.

I woke up this morning feeling low energy, and I wasn’t in the best mood. I woke up with my sister calling me to help her watch a 5 year old, but I felt so tired. She told me I could go back to sleep, but I felt bad because I knew she needed the help. I went back to sleep with the intention that when I woke up, I would go over and help her. My dreams kept on revolving around what I “had to do”. I finally woke up, and called her, and it was noon, and the 5-year old had left. I created a big deal out of nothing, and added unnecessary stress to my day.

Then I read through some emails, and some articles that I thought were interesting online, and I just felt overwhelmed by good ideas that I wasn’t doing, I started to feel down about money, became overwhelmed, and I felt dejected when I saw someone start an online business with a similar base idea that I had a year ago, and never did. I shouldn’t have let that discourage me because the business is still different than my idea, and it should have made me happy to see that someone with a similar structure is prospering because it shows that if I follow through with my idea, it can do well.

The real reason behind my bad mood was that I realized that I was being inactive. I wasn’t going after my goals and dreams, I wasn’t accomplishing anything. Maybe that’s an overstatement because I am working towards my goals, but today I was doing nothing, I was being inactive, and it wasn’t making me happy.

I Decided To Take Action

If I wanted to get out of my low energy slump, I needed to start acting on my thoughts and desires, so I did. And I feel a lot better. I still don’t feel 100%, but I feel like 85%, which is better than where I was just a half an hour ago.

So, to start the rest of my day, I’m going to make my bed, put away my clothes in the living room, finish cleaning up the kitchen, (all of this helps me feel better because my space will be clean, and it will be clean for my parents), then go to the gym or go for a run. Then from there I’ll take action on some work responsibilities.

What do you need to do to get out of a slump? What’s the next step you need to take to work towards a goal you have in mind?


Emelina Minero writes for Curve Magazine and EDGE Media Network. She’s working on launching her own progressive LGBTQ publication. She’s a Connection Connoisseur, Networking Maven and Self-Love Enthusiast. She founded Community Bucket List and co-founded the Love Warrior Community. Find her on Twitter, @CommKr8veWriter.

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4 Responses to I Decided To Take Action

  1. susan says:

    hello, can you tell me who the author is of the 80/20 book you mention? i see several with that title on amazon.
    i sure can relate to the info overload! i’m always reading several books at the same time, plus lots of blogs and articles online. then i have a hard time putting anything i read into action!

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  3. For sure Susan! 🙂

    It’s The 80/20 Principle: The Secret to Achieving More with Less by Richard Koch.

    I first heard about it through The 4-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss, which I prefer so far over The 80/20 Principle. Tim Ferriss summarizes the 80/20 Principle in his book, and so far his book is more action oriented.

    There’s different parts to The 80/20 Principle:

    Explaining What the 80/20 Principle is, how it works, and giving a history of it’s development.

    80/20 Analysis – Analyzing and testing effectiveness and efficiency in your life/business to make decisions.

    80/20 Thinking – Intuitively using the 80/20 Principle throughout every day living and choices.

    Using the 80/20 Principle to better run your business.

    Using the 80/20 Principle to enhance your personal life

    I skim/read up to page 139 out of 255, only stopping to read the parts that I thought I could get the most use of (applying the 80/20 Principle.) 🙂

    I’m at the part that I think I’ll benefit the most from, applying the 80/20 Principle to my personal life. Part 3: Work Less, Earn and Enjoy More.

    I was reading 3 or 4 books at the same time, for learning/life organizing purposes, and realized it would just lead to information overload, like you said, and it did, so I chose to stick with one self-help book at a time, The 80/20 Principle being my choice. And then I’m reading one other book, strictly for pleasure, The Sword of Shannara by Terry Brooks. I love fantasy books. 🙂

    I’ve been reading bits and pieces of The 80/20 Principle, and have been making a point to not read it all at once, and to let the energy of the book inspire me to take action. I have been loosely applying the 80/20 Principle, without having finished the book yet, by making my days action and focus oriented.

    I created a passion chart to help me hone in on what’s really important in my life. At the top of my chart was Happiness, my ultimate goal. Then from there I listed states of being that bring me happiness, like living in the present, having high energy, and being super focused and productive on something that brings me joy. Then I listed other things that help me get to those states of being, like having my physical and mental space clutter free, having quality family, friend, and self time, etc. Then I listed things that help me achieve those, like self-love work, solid sleep, consistent exercise, setting short-term goals. Then from there, I started to create action plans. For example, to help me work on active self-love work, I decided yesterday to write self-love posts, daily, until my 24th birthday. I know that daily self-love reflection really makes me focus on self-love. When I was writing daily self-love posts this past January, I felt amazing, and want to bring that back into my life.

    I haven’t yet started to apply the specific “to-dos” of the book, I’ve just been letting the energy and message inspire me to take action.

  4. susan says:

    thanks emelina! i’ll see if my library has it. (after i finish and return the books i already have out!). not enough hours in the day for all the reading i want to do!
    i love terry brooks!

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