Perfection’s name is Ninel Melia

Self–Love 6/16/11

May 22nd my first grandchild was born. She was 5.1 pounds and 17 inches long. She came into this world with a full head of dark hair, beautiful long fingers, and straight symmetrical toes which extend out from her perfect feet.

When I hold her and look at her face, it seems as if all the beauty, power, and perfection of the universe has coalesced into my arms.

When she looks into my eyes with her quiet intensity, my soul is opened and I am in the presence of an angel, a spiritual being, an innocent, a perfect manifestation of a human. What a miracle!

I have worked in the eating disorder field so long that I have come to think of the concept of “perfection” with judgment. Many of my clients have used their eating disorders to achieve the goal of physical perfection with dastardly results.

When did we lose sight of the perfection that we each embody? Our bodies don’t have to be a certain size or shape for our perfection to be validated. When I hold my granddaughter, Ninel, in my arms, I am reminded that we are divine miracles, perfect in every way.

How would your life be different if you began to believe you are perfect as you are this moment?

Write to me at to share with the Love Warrior Community how your life would be different if you began to believe you were perfect as you are in this moment.



Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. She created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Michelle is finishing her book, Self-Love: The Only Diet That Works, and her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter and help spread the Self-Love Movement!

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4 Responses to Perfection’s name is Ninel Melia

  1. lindsey wert says:


    Thank you for your beautiful words! I really appreciate this and have shared it with some of my clients. I also have found what you said to hit home with someone I know going through intense trauma. When do we separate from the perfection we are as human beings? It is so sad to see women and men hating their bodies, trying to change the physical and self to somehow change the inner–when really it is much of the world, media and societal norms that need to change—as well as self talk, behavior and values.

    Thank you for sharing your precious gift Ninel. She is beautiful, just like you. All my love and blessings.
    Love, Lindsey

  2. Wow. Congratulations Grandma. What a journey you are in for. She’s beautiful and perfect as we all are.
    Enjoy this new adventure of grandmotherhood. It’s an amazing journey. I think my heart opened wider than it ever had before when I held my first grandchild, Alexis. Can’t wait to meet here. How about a “celebrate grandmahood party” for you?

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