Taking Time

Self–Love May 1st


This past Sunday morning I was at my computer working on my manuscript as the sun slipped through the white blinds of my window. The smell of fresh air wafted through the opened screened window, as I heard the water from the front hose turn on. My husband was washing his car.

When was the last time I washed my car by hand?

I couldn’t remember. I don’t have time for that! I pay to drive through an automated car wash, while men on either side rub the soap onto my car before I drive through the tunnel as it gets rinsed and waxed. Next, I drive over to the drying station where I get out of the car and catch up on some reading or phone calls while the team dries my car by hand, vacuums the carpets, washes the inside of my windows, and finally wipes the interior clean. Wa La! Clean car and I haven’t even broken a sweat.

Today the sunshine and the sound of the water called me away from the computer and out the front door. It was a gloriously sunny day and actually hot! I went back in the house, got my car keys, unlocked my car and started cleaning out the interior of my car and my trunk. I took the carpets out, got my Armorall and damp cloth and began cleaning the dashboard, side panels, back of the seats, anything that wasn’t carpeted or upholstered.

Our neighbor walked by with his 4 kids of varying ages and heights, and we exchanged pleasantries. A little later, two junior high aged girls walked by. We smiled and greeted them. I was feeling the sunshine on my skin and in my heart.

Even though it’s springtime, I was brought back to my high school summer days. I can remember long, lazy days washing my car, hoping to see the cute guy who lived up the block come out of his house. Later my girlfriends would come over and we would sunbath in the back yard while listening to my transistor radio. That was a perfect day.

This was also a perfect day. Al brought out the vacuum, and I vacuumed the carpets out on the drive way, and then the inside of my car until it looked brand new! I put the vacuumed carpets back in and Wa La! Clean inside of car! This time I did break a sweat. I went back in the house, put on my shorts and a bathing suit top, and went back out to wash the car.

Feeling the warm sun on my skin, replenishing myself with cool water as I hosed down my car, and washing the car with my own two hands gave me a sense of well being I have not felt for a long while.

I took my time. There was no rush. There was nothing else that had to be done. I was in the moment, in the sunshine washing my car, and that was all.

The birds chirping replaced the music of my transistor radio, and daydreaming of the cute guy was replaced by day dreaming of my granddaughter who is due sometime in June. As I installed her car seat into the back of my car, I was filled with a sense of completeness, satisfaction, and joy. I had readied my car for her to come into this world and sit in the back seat of my hand washed car.

How would your life be different if you took your time and savored each moment?

I’d love to hear your self-love moment. You can share it with us by sending your response to lovewarrior@posterous.com. The subject heading of your email with be the title of your blog post and the body of your email with be the body of your response.



Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. She created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Michelle is finishing her book, Self-Love: The Only Diet That Works, and her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter and help spread the Self-Love Movement!

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