That was such a cool experience to see that energy can be cultivated, a frame of mind can be cultivated, and it can happen over a short period of time. I can change my attitude from negative to positive in a matter of seconds or minutes when I truly focus on it and want it to be my outcome. If I continue to make this my focus throughout my entire life, self-love, positive thoughts, good energy, how impacting can that be? Very. 🙂
In my 23rd self–post:
“My self-love actions: I’m taking that collaborative energy, and I’m working it into my life. I’m collaborating with more and more people, and I’m looking into the positive that the world has to offer me, and I’m offering my energy to others. It’s exciting. :)”
In my 26th self–post:
Today my mind was beginning to rot with exhaustion, and I needed a mental break and some downtime for my brain to relax so I could then be more productive and focused later. I grabbed The Elves of Cintra, laid on my bed, and began to read.
After January I stopped counting days and just noted the date. February 7th.
February is a new month. 🙂 I haven’t made any self-love posts for about a week or a week and a half, and within that time, I’ve had some great self-love days, and some not so great self-love days.
[At the EDRS conference, during a lecture we were asked about what] one thing we really want to change, and where our motivation and desire was on making that change happen, and what was blocking us from making that change.
It made me think about what I really want to change in my life, and I want to change my work habits. I work almost all the time, and I don’t give myself enough balance, enough down time, or enough time with my friends. I don’t like that. 🙂
So, for February, a new month, 🙂 I decided that I will focus on making the change that I most want to happen, happen.
Self–Love post February 9th
It’s crazy what happens when I listen to my body. My stress levels have gone down by a thousand and one, literally. 🙂 When I take away the time rush mentality, it’s like living in a new world, full of posibilities, relaxation, and happiness.
Self–Post March 18th, 2011
There was about a period of a month where I wasn’t doing much with my life. I was watching a lot of movies. I was sleeping a lot. I wasn’t working very much. I was kind of being lazy. That’s when I stopped writing self–love posts because I wasn’t feeling all that self–lovey. I have realized awhile ago that when I’m not being productive, when I’m not going after a goal, or when I’m lacking drive and motivation, I feel unhappy. So for about a month, I felt very unmotivated, and I lacked focus and drive, which lead to lack of self–love and lack of self–love posts. 🙂
In my funk of unproductivity, I realized how much I dislike being unproductive, so – there was this one day (I can’t really remember the specific day) where I decided I no longer wanted to be unproductive, and I changed it.
I decided I wanted to change.
It was just a couple weeks ago that I decided I wanted to change things. Also, I had a goal that I wanted to travel to the East Coast by the end of this month, March, and I had been telling all my friends about this goal and that I wanted to visit them. It had been in my plans for awhile, and I wanted this trip to be about 2 months. That goal became the spark that I needed to reignite my drive, my other goals, and my productivity.
If I can make this travel experience work, then I’ll be able to repeat it, which is what I want to do with my life, travel and live wherever I wish, at any moment, so I can visit with all the people that I love, meet new people, and experience new cultures.
One’s attitude is really important to how their day can turn out. At least that is true for me. Whenever I get grumpy, my mom tells me to imagine my liver, my heart, … my cells smiling, and it’s always such a funny image. I imagine these cartoon smiles on my cells. They have these big eyes, and these big smiles, on such a tiny thing, a cell. 🙂
Self–Love post, March 20th, 2011
Today was a sluggish day.
The sluggish and uneventfulness got spirred by this belief that I have a lot to do before I leave for the East Coast, and I only have about a week to do it all.
Part of me feels on track, and part of me feels like my ability to focus is not always on spot.
One of the main things I worked on today was changing my mentality, or doing things anyways, even if I felt unfocused. Today was one of those lesser productive days where the main goal was to just keep on moving, and not necessarily moving walls.
One of the things I kept on imagining was yellow, for light and sun, and occasionally I imagined my cells smiling at me to make me smile. 🙂
Today wasn’t the best energy day, but it was still good. I’m still moving forward in my goals and making progress. And I still have the rest of the day and evening to turn around my energy and enjoy myself with my familiy. 🙂
Self–Love post, March 21st, 2011
I really like Nike’s Motto, “Just Do It”. I have taken that as one of my life Mottos. Whenever I’m feeling sluggish, or I’m having a hard time doing something, or acheiving a goal, the slogan, “Just Do It” comes to mind. And it really works. If you just do something, instead of putting it off, even if you’re not in the mood for it, you can get a lot done, you can become in the mood to do whatever it is you want to do, you may realize it’s a lot easier, not that bad, a lot of fun, and then you’ll start getting in the flow of consistency and productivity. Even if you don’t finish everything you want to complete, at least you made progress.
Self–Love post March 23rd
It was also so cool to know that the actions I did on a low energy day, which I thought wasn’t that productive resulted in me being able to help someone.
It was just cool to see the affect of positive energy and helping others, even if I wasn’t feeling too positive when I was helping someone else, and it’s cool to see how energy can spread.
Self–Love post March 31st
Some things I’ve noticed: Although I’m traveling around, all my time here cannot be visiting. I have to balance my time between work, homework, and sociallizing, like I would anywhere else. At times it has been a challange to make homework my priority, but I have only been here for 3 full days and 3 nights, so I think I’m doing okay so far.
Self–Love post April 4th
Today I felt a little imbalanced and knew that I needed to get more work in right now.
Self–Love post 4/12/11
I felt disconnected. I felt disconnected from my school and from my friends. It was a similar feeling that I felt when I first traveled to Spain when I was studying abroad. I felt alone. … I became closterphobic, felt exhausted, and felt like I needed to be back home in California.
The next day I realized that those were foolish thoughts. I only felt disconnected because I made myself feel that way. The following day I made sure I got work done, and I locked myself away in my friend’s room, but then I got out of my comfort zone and left the room and began to reconnect with people. I only needed to feel comfortable in my own skin, and then everything just fell into place after that.
The power of a human beings’ energy amazes me every time I feel its affect.
I love meeting new people, which has resonated with me during my time in Norfolk, VA. There’s something about being able to connect with any individual, with being able to turn a stranger into a good friend, into someone you trust and feel comfortable with.
My favorite thing about this trip is that I have learned that anything is possible. The only restrictions on my life are the ones I make for myself. The only limitations in my life are those that are self-imposed. If I want to make something happen, I only have to want it, and then make it happen.
Today, April 26th, 2011
I’ve seen themes thoughout my self-love process: balance, drive, and connection.
I need drive and passion in my life to make me happy, which I often call productivity. If I’m being productive doing the things I love, and going after the things that I want, then I feel like I’m moving forward in life, and growing, which is important for me. Part of it also has to do with contribution. Work wise, I want to be able to support myself, and be able to support the people that have supported me, not only emotionally, but financially. I need drive in my life because if there’s nothing that I want to passionately pursue, then life becomes dull and directionless for me. I need to have goals, and I need to feel like I’m contributing to whatever community I’m involved in at the moment.
I need connection, connection to myself, connection to nature and my environment, and connection to the people that I’m with. If I feel disconnected, I lose touch with reality, and let my insecurrities take hold. Connection is important.
I need balance. My whole life cannot just be about connecting with others, or just about connecting with myself, or just about work; everything has to be mixed. If I put too much time on one thing in life, I leave no time for other aspects in my life that are equally important and needed. Balance is important for a happy me, which then affects everything else, and makes everything else more productive, cohesive, effective, and enjoyable.
My goals for the rest of my East Coast journey: balance, drive, and connection.
I’ll end with two of my favorite quotes:
Just Do It.
“As vast as your vision can show,
As high as your highest dreams grow,
As far as your passion can reach –
These are the places you’ll go.”
Emelina Minero writes for Curve Magazine and EDGE Media Network. She’s working on launching her own progressive LGBTQ publication. She’s a Connection Connoisseur, Networking Maven and Self-Love Enthusiast. She founded Community Bucket List and co-founded the Love Warrior Community. Find her on Twitter, @CommKr8veWriter.