Progress Not Perfection
I took the sub-heading from my mom’s last self–love post. It seemed fitting for my life. 🙂 I haven’t posted here in a while. Usually, that would bring me down, the lack of “perfection”.
There was about a period of a month where I wasn’t doing much with my life. I was watching a lot of movies. I was sleeping a lot. I wasn’t working very much. I was kind of being lazy. That’s when I stopped writing self–love posts because I wasn’t feeling all that self–lovey. I have realized awhile ago that when I’m not being productive, when I’m not going after a goal, or when I’m lacking drive and motivation, I feel unhappy. So for about a month, I felt very unmotivated, and I lacked focus and drive, which lead to lack of self–love and lack of self–love posts. 🙂
In my funk of unproductivity, I realized how much I dislike being unproductive, so – there was this one day (I can’t really remember the specific day) where I decided I no longer wanted to be unproductive, and I changed it.
In my unproductive state, I let myself fall behind in my online classes, and I was turning in all of my homework late. I stopped running. My room would get messier for longer periods of time, and I wasn’t moving forward with the development of my business, which is one of my main goals. I was still doing everything, just in slow motion.
I Decided I Wanted Change
It was just a couple weeks ago that I decided I wanted to change things. Also, I had a goal that I wanted to travel to the East Coast by the end of this month, March, and I had been telling all my friends about this goal and that I wanted to visit them. It had been in my plans for awhile, and I wanted this trip to be about 2 months. That goal became the spark that I needed to reignite my drive, my other goals, and my productivity.
I know that when I arrive to the East Coast, I don’t want to have to worry about homework and work. I would have both, but I want to be on top of both, and have everything organized and together. So, I got caught up in all of my homework, which is where I am now. It is now in my plans to use these next 10 days before I leave to get ahead in my homework, so I don’t have to worry about future deadlines.
I’ve started running again, about 2 weeks ago, and it feels great. Every day isn’t a marathon. The first two days I started running, my workouts were a mixture of walking and running, and mainly just walking. 🙂 Following that, I started to do around 2 to 3 mile jogs, which is where I have been these past two weeks. The first week I ran 5 days out of the week, and the 2nd week I ran 3 days out of the week. This week I have ran twice so far. And not every day is a 2 to 3 mile jog, some days have been more of a one mile jog, and maybe some biking. This has been really good for me, keeping up the consistency, and not getting deterred from not running 5 days a week every day, and not getting disappointed if one day I only run 1 mile, if the day before I ran 3. This fits into “Progress, not Perfection”.
One of the most difficult things about getting back into running is the mind set, especially after running competitively since junior high. I’ve been used to training with a team that competes, where we run 5 to 7 days a week, and where I pushed myself physically and mentally for about 90% of the workouts. I haven’t really ran consistently or hard for the past 2 years since I stopped running in college. So I’m obviously not as fast, nor can I cover the same distance comfortably.
A little over two weeks ago I decided that I really wanted to get back into running. It’s one of the greatest feelings, one of the greatest workouts, and it reminds me of those self-soothing techniques that my mom talks about. I feel like if you can train your mind to relax and you can get your mind in the same rhythm as your heart beat, your breathing, and your body for X amount of miles and time, then you can get your mind and body to relax in almost any situation outside of running. The two things I wanted to focus on were consistency, and distance. And I feel like I have been making a lot of progress in both of those goals. Consistency is the biggest goal. As long as I go out and just run, even if it’s not the distance that I want, then I’m already achieving my goal, because I’m training my mind to make running a habit.
Another aspect I want to be organized in is work, which is another main reason for this trip I’m making. I need to be able to support myself while I’m on the East Coast. If I can’t, then I’ll be coming home a lot sooner, instead of staying for the whole two months. I also don’t want to feel restricted on money while I’m there. I want to be able to go out, to travel around, to have fun, and to enjoy the people I’m with. In order do that, I need to be working consistently and effectively. In these last two weeks, I have been making strides towards keeping my business goals and plans organized. I have a list of about 8 clients who want a website from me. I just started talking to one of them, and I hope to have the website finished before I leave. I also want to start on two more new websites before I leave, that I can bring with me while I travel. Then I have two clients who I do work with now and then, updating their websites. My plan is to get moving forward with all of this. I feel like if I focus on two to three full websites at a time while I’m on the East Coast, then this should be sufficient in keeping me going.
I’m really excited about this. If I can support myself while on the East Coast, and develop a work ethic that allows this, then when I get back home, I’ll be able to do the same, and soon enough, I’ll be able to get my own place, and legit support myself financially. And if I can make this travel experience work, then I’ll be able to repeat it, which is what I want to do with my life, travel and live wherever I wish, at any moment, so I can visit with all the people that I love, meet new people, and experience new cultures.
So I’m very excited. I feel like this month of unproductivity, and these past two weeks of productivity have all fit into the theme of progress and not perfection. And the most important thing I’ve gotten from this, whether it be school related, running related, work related, or whatever, is to just keep on going. Some days are more productive than others. Some days are more focused than others. Somedays I lack motivation, but as long as I keep on going, and continue to build consistency, then I’ll be fine. 🙂
The title of this post, “Start Out Your Day With A Smile”, I think that’s really important to start off any day on a good note.
I made my Facebook status: Start out the day with a smile. Like my mom often says, “Imagine your organs smiling, your liver, your cells, …” That always makes me smile real big – seeing my cells with these funny smiles. :)”
One’s attitude is really important to how their day can turn out. At least that is true for me. Whenever I get grumpy, my mom tells me to imagine my liver, my heart, … my cells smiling, and it’s always such a funny image. I imagine these cartoon smiles on my cells. They have these big eyes, and these big smiles, on such a tiny thing, a cell. 🙂
I’ve been thinking about how good everything has going lately, and I want to capitalize on that and keep the forward momentum going, and I know doing this, writing self-love posts will help, because the power of writing and reflection is really strong. Also, when I start putting self-love thoughts into writing, it really makes me carry it out into my day.
I hope you have a good morning. 🙂
Emelina Minero writes for Curve Magazine and EDGE Media Network. She’s working on launching her own progressive LGBTQ publication. She’s a Connection Connoisseur, Networking Maven and Self-Love Enthusiast. She founded Community Bucket List and co-founded the Love Warrior Community. Find her on Twitter, @CommKr8veWriter.