Progress Not Perfection



I’ve been using my body love cream, meditating on my blessings in the morning, looking into my eyes and telling myself that I love me. 3 weeks ago I committed to practicing my Qigong daily, and working to complete my book proposal.

I’ve been “humming along” with myself love practice.

Mondays are my “date day” with my husband. We both take the day off to spend with each other. Yesterday I did not do my Qigong first thing in the morning. I told myself I would do it later. Al and I had an appointment in the morning with our financial planner, and then a Costco stop for gas and to order a baby shower cake for my daughter.

We came home, and after lunch we hung out and then did something we don’t usually do, we watched an old movie, Collateral Damage, with Arnold Schwarzenegger. I don’t even like him as an actor, and I didn’t like him as our governor, but somehow it caught our interest, and before we knew it, it was 4:30 pm! I hadn’t done my qigong, written on my book proposal, blogged, or cleaned the house in preparation for the baby shower.

I felt unaccomplished, even after going for a walk with Al after dinner. I wanted to do qigong for 100 days without missing. Now I would need to start over. I was feeling irritated, as if I’d wasted my day. Then I remembered my commitment to Progress not Perfection.

I began to shift my perspective. Instead of looking at the one day of Qigong I missed, I patted myself on the back for three weeks of daily qigong practice. Instead of criticizing myself for not working on my book proposal, I realized I’ve written a manuscript that I believe in passionately. I began to feel better. If I decide to watch a movie with Al during the day again, I think I’ll choose The Sound of Music!

Have you viewed your recent accomplishments as not enough? What if you view them through the lens of progress, instead of perfection?



Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. She created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Michelle is finishing her book, Self-Love: The Only Diet That Works, and her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter and help spread the Self-Love Movement!

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1 Response to Progress Not Perfection

  1. lindsey wert says:

    Michelle I soooo love this! It really spoke to me–PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION! I may get that tattooed somewhere! Not really but in my head of course. Thank you for doing this for yourself—and I have realized the sometimes/most always doing what feels like not accomplishing something is what the soul, or my soul needed—to just be and not do. Love you!


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