Self–Love Day 12
Within these 12 days of actively focusing on self-love, and writing about it here, I wrote at least one post about learning to say, “No”, and doing what’s right for me.
That’s a constant thing for me, learning to say no, and learning to speak for what I want, and need. I feel guilty saying no. This past week, one of my best friends asked me to go on a hike with him, but I knew I needed to work, so I reluctantly said no. I felt bad because I wanted to spend time with him. Yesterday, one of my close cousins asked to drop by, but once again, I knew I needed to work, so I said no. I had spent good chunks of the day helping others, driving my sister to the airport, etc, so I knew I needed to have some part of the day to get work done.
A big thing I have been working on is creating a work schedule. Since I work from home, and create my own schedule, it’s relatively easy to change it, and I often do, but I’m realizing that I need to create myself a firmer schedule, so I can begin to support myself financially.
I’ve also realized that my best days are when I don’t rush, when I don’t have the time vacuum mentality, and when I mix pleasure and relaxation into my day. I’m realizing that I can create a nice balance between work and socializing, and that a balance between the two is needed.
Although I’m closer to that balance, I’m still not at the happiest of mediums between work and play. Sometimes I think I work too much, and sometimes I think I give myself too much relaxation time.
When people ask me to do things for them, or to do things with them, I know that sometimes I do need to say no, in order for me to work, or if I’m listening to my body, and need to slow down. Other times, I feel like it would be best if I go out more. In listening to myself and what I need, I feel like I have been able to discern the two more easily.
So, for Day 12 of The Self-Love Challenge, my self-love action was saying no to a visit so I could work, but it turned out that when I got home from driving my sister to the airport, I was horribly tired and had quite the headache, so instead, I listened to my body and my self again, and went to sleep early.
Emelina Minero writes for Curve Magazine and EDGE Media Network. She’s working on launching her own progressive LGBTQ publication. She’s a Connection Connoisseur, Networking Maven and Self-Love Enthusiast. She founded Community Bucket List and co-founded the Love Warrior Community. Find her on Twitter, @CommKr8veWriter.