Day 10 of the Self-Love Challenge
I’ve been faithfully writing my Self-Love blog posts, doing my best to balance my days, and get my stretches and walking in. With all this wonderful work, something else has been left behind. That something else has been my query letter and book proposal. I’ve been putting it on the back burner, and not finding the time to complete it. My procrastination on this last part of my book has been weighing me down even in the midst of all of my Self-Love gifts. There has been a battle going on between the part of me that wants to get my book out into the world, and the part of me that hangs back.
My Guiding light card on day 6 of the Self-Love Challenge told me to Climb out of the darkness and into your life.
Today I picked a new card, Preparing for the battle. It shows a collage with three main images. The background image shows a section of a woman, from her chest to her knees, dressed in vintage clothes, sitting in the snow. She has two rings on one hand and snow on her lap. She is an Archetypal wise woman. At the bottom of the card there is a silhouette of a group of young men with rifles, preparing for battle. On the right hand side of the bottom of the card is an image of a young dark skinned girl with a frown on her face, looking down, and dressed in foreign clothing.
I asked the question; How can I stop procrastinating and start writing my book proposal?
The answer from the image of the Wise woman in the snow was:
I am the one who:
Can watch your battle and stay detached.
Wants the best for you, but let’s you make your own decisions.
The answer from the image of the soldiers was:
We are the ones who:
Are prepared for battle.
Are undisciplined, but can fight for a worthy cause or create havoc.
The answer from the image of the young girl was:
I am the one who:
Needs care, protection, and guidance.
Who is self–sufficient.
Knows things can be difficult, but continues to persevere.
The message from the Wise Woman helped me to realize that whether I finish this book or not, it’s not life shattering. My life is worthy whether I get it published or not. By letting go of the battle, it reinforced the purpose of my book: spreading the message of self-love.
The message of the soldiers helped me see how my thoughts can cause havoc, and procrastination, or gather strength and prepare to battle for a worthy cause, which in my case is to get this book out into the world where it can educate, motivate, and inspire others to live a love-filled life.
The message from the young girl helped me to see that I need to care for the part of me that procrastinates. I need to protect that part from discouragement, and guide that part of myself toward my goals. By persevering, I will be able to give something back to the world in appreciation for what I have received, a life free from the bondage of food and body, and filled with love.
I also have a daughter who is supporting and encouraging me, as well as a friend who I committed to, and I recently re-connected with a woman I’ve known since we were both Brownies. I promised her I would write every day until I finish the book proposal. As I read this blog post, a part of me says, Stop reading from your SoulCollage® Cards, and JUST WRITE!!! ( In a loving way of course!)
The three images from the SoulCollage® card were able to guide me. Someone isn’t going to force me to finish the book. It is my decision to finish it, and if I want to get it out into the world, I will need to take responsibility to make it happen. By reading from my SoulCollage® card, the Nike slogan came to mind, Just Do it, and so today I sat down and happily began my query letter. 🙂
One aspect of self-love is going after your dreams, and not letting procrastination, or the insecurities that motivate procrastination to deter you from achieving your dreams. Instead of letting worry take hold of me today, concerning my book, I let action drive me, and it felt good!
You can visit my self-love website to find out more about the Love Warrior Community. It will launch this week. You can visit Daylle Deanna Schwartz’ website to take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge and to receive her free e-book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count The Ways.
Michelle Minero, the Co-Founder of this blog and the overarching Love Warrior Community published her book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works. You can buy her book online or at the Petaluma Copperfield’s bookstore. For upcoming events and book signings, starting with Michelle’s Free SoulCollage® Workshop on Saturday, March 23rd, visit Michelle’s Events page.
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. Michelle’s book, Self-Love Diet: The Only Diet That Works, was published on January 23, 2013. You can purchase a copy through Amazon. Her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies.
Michelle created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005.
In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter.