What is Self-Love? What do I mean when I say Self-Love?
Some people have told me, “I don’t want to tell people I’m working on Self-Love because I don’t want to be thought of as conceited!” Others have asked, “Isn’t Self-Love being selfish?”
If you are like most people, instead of being conceited, you may have a critical running dialogue about your shortcomings and imperfections. Rather than being selfish, it may be easier to give to others than yourself.
Self-Love means making sure you get on “the list” of your priorities each day.
When you fly anywhere on an airlines, the flight attendant always reminds you in case of an emergency to put the oxygen mask on your face before helping anyone else. This is a great metaphor for self-love, because it is of paramount importance to care for you first, not out of selfishness, but for self-preservation!
There are a few things I am focusing on lately in terms of self-love.
I need to move my body more, and I’m wanting more time on my writing… So here is an everyday example of self-love.
I woke up this morning at 7:00am. I did not have to go to the office today. I assessed that I was still sleepy, so I slept for another half an hour. This is an example of self-love.
When I did get up, the sun was no where to be seen, and it was sprinkling. Instead of not going for a bike ride, I went to the gym because my body was telling me it wanted to work out. This is an example of self-love.
After my workout, I got home and took a shower. The water was soothing and warm. I said a prayer of thanksgiving for heated running water. While I was drying off, I thanked my body for being healthy. This is an example of self-love.
My husband and I drove into the city to take care of his mother today. While I was with my mother-in-law, I focused my love on her, and allowed her love to soak into me! This is an example of self-love.
When we got home, I was drawn to my computer like a moth to a flame, and now I’m writing to you! This is an example of self-love, because it gives me such joy to write.
Self-Love is not rocket science, it is much more important.
Self-Love allows you to remember that you are worthy, lovable, and deserving of all good things, because you treat yourself like you are!
Michelle Minero is a licensed marriage family therapist who specializes in eating disorder recovery. She created an intensive outpatient eating disorder program in 2000, brought ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, Inc.) to Petaluma shortly after and founded EDRS (Eating Disorder Recovery Support, Inc.), a Marin and Sonoma County based 501(c)3 non-profit organization in 2005. In 2011, Michelle co-founded the Love Warrior Community with her daughter, Emelina, an online community that helps people cultivate self-love, self-acceptance and body acceptance through creative expression. Michelle is finishing her book, Self-Love: The Only Diet That Works, and her dream is to see a world filled with people who love themselves and their bodies. Connect with Michelle on Facebook and Twitter and help spread the Self-Love Movement!